How do I make her cum
I’m 21m and I am dating a girl (23f). I’ve been dating her for about a month now and everything is going good. We had sex for the first time about 2 or 3 weeks ago and the first time felt pretty good on my end but I didn’t last too long since I haven’t gotten any since high school.
But we’ve been having sex a lot like 3-4 times a day whenever she comes over to my house and I noticed that I’ve been getting better at oral and I’ve been able to last way longer than I did before. I can go for about 20min if I pace my self before I ejaculate in round 1, but when we do round 2 and 3 and 4 I can last forever no problem.
She’s told me that she likes oral but prefers penetration. Whenever we have sex I always go down on her first and I do my best to take my time and do foreplay. Like kissing/sucking on her neck, sucking and kissing her boobs. Licking her body, thighs etc. Even kissing and licking around her vagina to tease. And then I start going down on her.
When I do oral on her I always try to find the clit and suck on it while licking it and it seems to get her to start convulsing and moaning and grabbing my head super tight. I also mix in a bit of fingering as well and I do this for at least 20-30 minutes. When I finger her I stick one finger in and make a come here motion with my finger tip gently and I’ll mix up the speed, But for some reason she hasn’t came. She’s told me that she’s been super close to cumming when I do that to her but just hasn’t gotten over that bridge.
After oral I start penetrating her in missionary and that goes on for about 10-15 minutes before I start getting really sweaty and my muscles start to hurt and then we change positions into doggy while I stand up and she’s on the edge of the bed and we do that until I cum or just get tired from flat out exhaustion.
She then told me that “its not you it’s me” and that “its okay if I don’t cum I’m still enjoying it and I’m satisfied” but I really feel different about that because what’s the point of having sex if you’re not gonna climax from it? She also told me that she has only ever came twice in her life and it was due to fingering and clitoral stimulation.
So that leads me to believe that it’s my fault that I can’t make her cum because she’s came in the past but just hasn’t came with me… she likes to be choked, talked to while fucking her, kissed. And I do all of that but I still haven’t been able to get her to cum.
My question is what am I doing wrong? Is it really a me problem or is it more of a mental thing for her? How can I get her to cum or what techniques could I implement during oral and penetration to help me get her to cum? It really bothers me that I haven’t been able to make her cum.