u/Ill_Ear6598

On vacation with my boyfriend right now and last night honestly scared me.

He went golfing/drinking all day, came back super drunk and frantic telling me to hurry and get ready for a dinner I didn’t even know we had planned. I wasn’t ready and his energy was making me anxious, so I calmly said “hey baby go have fun with your friends, I’m content staying back and ordering room service.”

He got irritated and left slamming our room door.

Then later called me asking me to bring him his badge while he was downstairs at an open bar continuing to drink. I said yes because I didn’t want confrontation, but honestly I was anxious and didn’t want to go down there alone at night.

So he came back upstairs angry, yelled at me for not bringing it, slammed the glass balcony doors so hard they flew back open, then slammed the hotel room door hard enough the handle almost came off. Left again

Then he passed out on the bed.
This morning he said he didn’t remember any of it because he was drunk.
I genuinely felt scared and unsettled last night and now I don’t know if I’m overreacting because technically he didn’t touch me, but the aggressive tone and slamming things around really upset me. I slept in the other bed, Would this be a red flag to you?

I haven’t been dating this guy very long, but something keeps bothering me and I don’t know if I’m being too picky.

Every time I say I want to make dinner together, he basically takes over the kitchen. He decides what we’re eating, starts cooking everything himself, and I just end up sitting there. It doesn’t feel like quality time at all. On top of that, he plays loud rap music I don’t even like, which just makes it feel even less enjoyable for me. ( I’ve told
Him this bothers me , continues to do it )

Another thing ill hint at what I want to do (like I said I want to go to a winery and listen to music), and instead of actually building off that, he’ll say something like “okay I’ll plan the whole night.” But then it turns into whatever he wants, not what I said.

It just feels like he doesn’t really listen or consider what I’m asking for, even though I’m being pretty clear.

Am I overthinking this since it’s still early, or is this a red flag for how he’ll be long-term?