I'm (non-binary28). My brother (m21) got mini braids about a year and half ago. Sometimes he likes to hold them up in a little man-bun which is cute.
The first time he asked me to help him tie his hair was early last year. I helped him bc he's my baby brother but I was shocked that he didn't know how to do this. I chalked it up to- he's a boy, he's never needed to learn. It actually made me think about how i learned to tie my own hair..
For more context; he goes to uni in a whole other country, only comes home during the holidays, and he's in his 2nd year. So for almost 4 months at a time I'm not around to tie his hair. I have helped him to tie his hair many times after that and each time I tell him he has to learn to do it himself. His response is usually something smug or dismissive.
Yesterday he asked me to tie it for him bc he was going to church and he needed it to look neat. I told him no.
From my perspective I think it's ridiculous that a grown man who lives on his own, goes to the gym, attends conferences, decided of his own volition to grow out his hair still hasn't learned to tie it himself.
A few hours later when he was ready to leave, he came back again and this time he was really making a fuss- complaining about how he was running late, and essentially saying that I'm selfish for refusing his request. Still, I said no. I offered to teach him how to do it (teach a man to fish and all that) and after a few tries- we almost made progress, he walked off in a huff.
So AITAH?