Finally Separated
I was with my wife for 6 years. (married for 15 months) Myself and family always thought my wife was dealing with Bi-Polar disorder. After reading about vulnerable narcissistic traits I was floored. Constant need for validation, hyper sensitive, victim mentality, and zero ability to emphasize or take accountability.
She would blow up on me over the smallest things, I would react negatively, and then be shamed. Then when I would try get to the bottom of the fight the next day, my wife would spin a story that was completely false. Anytime I could get an apology out of her it was immediately followed up with a justification. It was making me question my own reality at times.
In 6 years I was arrested twice. My wife makes new friends as much as possible to feed her need for constant validation and trashes me to no end. Any "friend" that pushes back on her stories gets tossed and replaced. Then im shamed for not coming around and wanting to be part of her friend groups. (Shes trashing me!)
Last month, I had enough. I got on a plane and left for 10 days. I come back home, she files for divorce, puts a restraining order on me. Attempting to take full custody of our child, outlandish divorce motions. She really saved the best for last. Comes to find out, immediately after filing for divorce, shes sleeping with a coworker who is 17 years her senior. No reflection, no healing, just on to the next.
We had our first divorce hearing today, she thought she was going to steam roll me. When she found out she has no claim to the house and the majority of my assets. (all premarital) She decides to go home, call the police, and tell them I've been sneaking it the house while she was at the gym, violating the restraining order. Total lie that she couldn't prove. No arrest thank god.
Now that I understand what im dealing with, im going to fight tooth and nail for the most possiple time with my child. I'm hoping the fear of losing her small settlement to the cost of a custody trail makes her somewhat reasonable.
As I sit in my parents house, hurt, sad, and alone. Shes dropping our son at a neighbor's house while she goes on dates with her new victim and is decimating my character to ANYONE who will listen.
Pray for me folks. It's a nightmare.