AITAH for 'ruining' my friends prom after she ditched me?
I (F17) and my best friend Jamie(F17) have been hanging out since we both moved here. After Covid happened we both took different paths. I went the online school route to work around school, and she stayed in school. So eventually her prom rolls around and she remembers our plan and asks me to go. As the day approaches we made a bunch of plans to get ready, take photos, go have fun, and do the typical teenage things after prom.
Being in America, I was told to get in that I would need an ID, so I brought that over to Jamie's house and because she planned to bring a clutch, she let me put my ID in there so I didn't lose it. After everything is said and done and we're at the prom (it was at an aquarium) we get inside and there's a bunch of nothing going on. As an outsider I knew no one there except for Jamie. With no dancing going on and people just standing around I took the initiative to be the first one to start dancing. I invited Jamie to join me in dancing to try and get the mood going and people to be lively but she shoots me down. So as I am just vibing alone I go around to other kids and invite them to join me which a few did.
After a couple songs I head back over to Jamie who had been staring at the entrance the entire time waiting for another one of her friends let's say Kenzie. I ask her if there's anything she'd like to do while she was waiting like the photo booth, looking at the animals, playing games, or getting food to pass the time. To each suggestion she repeatedly says no. I accept that as her answer and relay to her that I would be going to do some of the fore mentioned activities. She nods and stays staring at the entrance waiting for her friends. In this time I decided to grab a cookie and do a solo photo session as there was no limit or cost to do so. As I am sticking around in the area she was and just trying to have a good time she comes over to me angry with a very passive aggressive tone. I proceeded to ask Jamie what the matter was thinking it could be something another friend said to her. Low and behold she's angry at me for having done a couple of the activities without her.
I tried to calm her down and explain that I was still willing and able to do the things again with her but that I didn't want to stand around doing nothing. After telling her this Jamie relaxed for the time being, there was still tension but nothing crazy. We took a bunch of pictures and texted a few mutual friends which ended up draining my phone battery. The night goes on awhile longer before her school friends show up. Excited as ever Jamie goes to greet them as I trailed behind trying to follow. As we meet up she goes to introduce her friends and I which was a pleasant exchange. We all chatted for a moment before I slipped away excusing myself to go put my phone on a charger. As I return to where everyone had been standing I had found no sign of Jamie or her friends.
Without my phone, I start walking around the prom trying to find Jamie to keep up with her. Having no luck the first lap around I decided to take a couple more to see if we might have missed each other. Minutes go by and still nothing, she's not looking for me, and I stayed in the general area of where I last saw Jamie. Figuring my phone was decently charged I go to retrieve it, thinking Jamie might have texted, when I received the phone again I had no texts or calls. I text her asking where she was to which I got no response. I try a few more times even going so far as to calling, all ending with no response.
At this point I was completely over it. She was mad at me for doing something I let her know I was doing and rectified my "mistake" by doing it all again with her. Then I proceeded to get ditched at a prom for a school I don't go to with kids I have never met. Feeling defeated I found a corner of the building that was dark and quiet so I could be on my phone in peace texting my brother to come get me as her mom drove us. He agreed but encouraged me beforehand to text Jamie one last time before jumping the gun. I did so, and to my surprise she responded but with a text saying that her boyfriend was coming to pick us up and that we were leaving. Not wanting to cause any more issues I agreed and met up with her outside.
As I got outside I sat down next to her and asked if she had a good time to which she stayed silent. I repeated the question and also asked if she was okay to which she blew up at me. She started calling me a bitch and told me I ditched her and ruined her prom. I sat there trying to be as understanding as I could be, but was also thinking to myself "you spent the entire night waiting for your other friends to arrive and when they did, ditched me when I said I would be back in a second"
I apologized to her, trying to keep the peace as we still had the rest of the night that we were spending together and I didn't want any drama. About 15 minutes later Jamie's flavor of the week arrived. We got in the car and he asked how everything was to which I replied "good" as I didn't want to get into it again, and she gave me a stink eye and said the same. This was my first time meeting her boyfriend so I didn't have much to say. Being polite, boyfriend asks if we are hungry and if we'd like to go anywhere. Both Jamie and I said no and he starts driving away from the prom. He starts swerving the car to which I ask if everything is alright. He replied saying "yeah but I have had a couple drinks and a joint" to which I immediately started panicking.
I asked him to get off at the nearest exit saying that I was in fact hungry and we stopped at Popeyes. We get out of the car and Jamie leaves her clutch with my ID inside. The three of us head into the building and take a look at the menu. I notice that my phone is back down to 5% and I ask the workers if they have a charger to which I heard a no. I go to sit down at a table trying to keep in contact with my family while Jamie and bf look at the menu.
Before I know it Jamie and boyfriend got into a loud argument in which boyfriend walked out and drove away leaving Jamie and I an hour from home with little tools for communication. About an hour later Jamie's mom shows up to come get us. Relieved we both get into the car and start heading back to Jamie's place. During the car ride Jamie's mom ask what happened to which we both explained the story. Her mom is nodding along and stays quiet for most of the story duration until she informs us that she is driving stoned as well. I at this point just wanted to get out of the car but had nowhere to go.
Jamie's mom proceeded to try and lighten the mood and ask about prom. Before I could say a word Jamie jumps in and starts talking about how awful her night was and how I ruined prom for her. I asked her how I did so and she explained that I wasn't there for her at all that night, that I should've been by her side the entire time, that I didn't like her friends so I walked away and completely painted me as a villian. I am to tired to fight it at that point and just sit in the car listening and waiting for my chance to apologize again for things I never did.
So we get back to her house and we both immediately change, we get comfortable and play a game and decided to partake in the intoxication everyone was doing that night and have a gummy each. Less than thirty minutes of being at her house, Jamie falls asleep leaving me being the only person awake and eventually high.
(Now a little fun fact about me, I cannot do sleepovers, I literally freakout and have a panic attack that has previously taken 2CBD gummies and 4pain pills to get me to stop shaking)
I ended up calling my brother to come pick me up as I was mid panic attack with no one to lean on. He again being the saint he is agreed and drove an half an hour to come get me. I let Jamie know that I was heading out using my anxiety as an excuse and left.
The next day I remembered that she still had my ID from prom. I text her asking if she still has it and can mail it to me. She tells me that it's safe but she wouldn't be able to mail it. I understood and asked if I would be able to come pick it up instead to which she replied saying "I lost it". I asked what she meant by that as hours before she told me it was safe. She said that she left it with her boyfriend and that she didn't get her clutch back either (with her ID, money, and gum in there) and that they weren't talking still from the fight. I asked her to please get it back for me as I needed it for government reasons, and she clapped back at me saying that they broke up and I shouldn't be angry I should be sympathetic. I blew up at her and just asked her to get my ID back as it was my property and she wouldn't give me her boyfriend's info to ask him. She ended up blaming me for everything again and then blocked me.
And that my friends is how prom destroyed 9 years of friendship