I had this friend for a while who I basically made because we happened to have a few shared interests (anime/video games) and it just happened organically. It was around highschool time, I was quite a loner and so I basically only hung out with them 24/7 it kind of became like a reliance because I kind of had and still sometimes have social struggles and I felt like I could only comfortably talk to them.
Looking back I was kind of passive in the relationship and, I did like like them but I found some of their behaviours annoying like how they’d dominate the conversation and seemed to be pessimistic a lot. Also sometimes we’d do activities I found boring and I’d just go along with it, maybe it’s my fault for not speaking up. They’re really talented and have a lot of good traits too but sometimes I felt like they were quite inconsiderate. Like in the last year of highschool before graduation we had a yearbook and we were supposed to have matching quotes but they changed it at the last minute without telling me so mine didn’t make sense anymore.
Also during hangouts always walks ahead of me fast without looking back when we’re walking to somewhere and cuts the hang out short at a really weird time, also is late a lot to said hang outs. I feel like it’s partially my fault for never addressing things that bother me in the moment and letting them build up, maybe I’m self sabotaging in some ways because we’ve kept in contact all throughout college just fine.
We had a falling out about something to do with them always being late to hang out and I’m not sure whether to be honest with them about things that bother me or to just leave it and slowly lose contact with this person. Maybe it’s the loner in me telling me to cut ties with anyone if they even slightly bother me or maybe in this case I should just call it quits. At the same time, how do I practise conflict resolution if I just cut ties all the time? I’m not sure. Honestly, I was starting to not enjoy hanging out anymore, maybe it’s ok to just leave I’m not sure. Is ghosting them ok?