do your narc use quotes like out of a movie??
my husband has done this for years - he will text, email, or in conversations use random quotes. It’s like he’s playing a role in a movie. often the quotes don’t quite fit the scenario, sentiment, or mood.
For example, i was taking my mom to check in for a very intense inpatient treatment that will last weeks and is her only hope. literally. She has Stage 4 metasatic Melanoma. so he texts her this overly sappy text and then ends it with, “A ship in the harbor is safe, but that is not what ships are built for.”
when i get home he’s all tickled with himself and asks how she liked the nessage. I said something to the effect of “thanks for the enrcouragement”,
but he persists….So i say- the quote always meant to take chances, don’t always choose the safe options, choose the adventure instead of staying home to me, etc.
“maybe a little tome deaf” i reply.
“Doesn’t it mean that to you, i ask?!?”
in my head I’m thinking- this isn’t a trip to Europe or something or choosing a new career path— it’s a last ditch life saving effort.
He gets all defensive and sputters, “it was in a movie!” BINGO! it is like this man cannot have a genuine, authentic interaction. he has to recall how a person handled something similar in a movie.
wow. pathetic. its unnerving that they don’t even know how to be a human.