Is this an emotional affair?
My bf M25 and I F23 have been together for a year now. I’ve had a gut feeling about this girl friend of his. I saw a DM from her that seemed a little questionable, but not exactly incriminating. I did ask him about it though, I asked if they’re like friends that talk regularly like that, because it seemed so from that message she had sent. he said no and that they really aren’t that close. I noticed he had a playlist made for her on Spotify and I saw she was top in his Spotify DMs, her name above mine even. I asked him about her again, like are you guys friends and talk because that’s fine, i have guy friends i talk to and share music with sometimes. (he knows of all my guys friends though, and they’re his friends too) This girl I don’t particularly like because she has said not nice things about me in the past. He once again told me they’re not that close and rarely talk. Well every morning I wake up with a pit in my stomach, and her face in my head. So I saw yesterday on his phone that they do text pretty regularly, and he has just her notifications turned off so I couldn’t see when she’d text him. The messages aren’t super incriminating either, but still make me uncomfortable. They send each other lots of music, and recommend each other movies often. They send each other huge paragraphs, things he doesn’t talk about with me. They’ve spoken on the phone too, one time specifically after me and him had a big argument. Is this an emotional affair ? and what do I do? I haven’t confronted him about it because I don’t know how and I’m just scared. I’m crushed.
TLDR My M25 bf of a year lied to me about the extent of his friendship with a girl and I F23 found they text often and he’s turned off her notifications so I can’t see.