Husband fired again
I was sick and went to work today with laryngitis and a head cold and when my husband came home, he informed me he’d been fired… again. The reason was that he overslept and showed up at work 4 minutes late. This is a pattern. We haven’t even been married 3 full years and he’s been fired from 10 jobs including every temp job he’s ever had. This is probably the longest stint of employment he has had with any job and he was there since September. I’ve been at my job consistently since July 2023. He told me leading up to this firing he wasn’t happy in his job. But he’s not been happy in any job he’s had. He relapsed early in our marriage and he’s been sober for a year and a half. I believe most of the lay offs and firings were untruthful. This one he said he had 39 points against him. He’s consistently been finding excuses to call out, won’t get out of bed when his alarm goes off, shows up late, and from what I hear by stories of work sounds like he’s more focused on goofing off then doing his job. I’m beyond frustrated. I tried to encourage him to apply to other jobs or go back to school because he talks about wanting to do something else but he’s never motivated. He’s in therapy but I don’t think he’s ever honest with his therapist and I don’t believe he’s honest with his sobriety partners either or his sponsor. He goes to meetings every night but won’t work the 12 steps. He’s not a self starter. He’s not motivated. Idk how to encourage or motivate him and honestly I’ve been feeling like separating from him for a while now because most of his problematic characteristics did not change since the drug use stopped. I need advice. How do I get a separate bank account so I can protect myself and save without him blowing up on me? I don’t trust him.