Experience with moving to stop being in a long distance relationship?
I'm not sure what my goal is with this post. It would be nice to read positive experiences and hope I can someday have the same, I guess.
I (32F) have been married to my husband (32M) for four years. We have been together for eight, and have been in a LDR for the entire duration of our relationship. We met right before I moved to Estonia for my studies, which then turned into a job, while he lived in Northern Italy. Two years ago, he won a position in Sicily, and the distance became impossible to manage from Estonia. I found a job in Austria that was an improvement in my career trajectory, and that would also improve our situation thanks to better flights and more flexible hours, and so at the end of 2024 I moved to Linz. But now it feels like we are stuck: he has a long term contract but is not entirely happy with his work situation. I have a fixed-term contract, but I really like where I live and what I do. We are both musicians, so finding jobs is particularly complex.
If I moved to Sicily, I think I would have to completely tank my career and go back to being a waitress or teaching kids. If he moves to Austria, he would have to learn German before he can do anything, probably.
So, my question is, did anyone just drop everything and move for a partner? What is your experience? Did it destroy your life, or was it actually the right choice?