I (19F) have had struggles against my sister eating my food without permission. It's happened a couple of times in the past month or so. I had a jar of pickles that my boyfriend had bought me while he was visiting, he doesn't live near me (we're long distance) and I was very excited for them, mostly because he bought thwm for me.
One evening, I walked into the kitchen to find my sister cutting them up for food she was making herself. When she saw that i had seen, she didn't apologize she just walked away, found her wallet, and handed me 10 bucks telling me it's for buying more pickles. I was extremely agitated but decided to let it go. It wasn't worth the fight.
About a week or so later, I bought a loaf of bread I was really looking forward to. I struggle with eating, and a lot of the time, it isn't worth the time or brain power to me, so I won't eat. The bread would help me throughout the week and make my life easier. One night a week or so ago, I had gone to bed early. My sister stayed up, making this pasta dish for the rest of my family. I took no part in it. I had eaten a few hours prior and just wanted to sleep.
The next morning, I woke up and found she used the entire loaf of bread for garlic bread the night before. I was frustrated, to say the least. My mom told me she would buy me another loaf of bread, but that my sister used it to make food for everyone last night and that it's just a loaf og bread. I went to work frustrated and huffy, i didn't feel like talking, and I just wanted some space to think and regulate myself. After lunch i was ok. However, the earlier agitation still lingered.
A couple of days ago, it was brought back up, and my mom told me I was being ungrateful towards my sister for the dinner she made even though I didn't eat it. My mom said I could have had the leftovers the next day, but I didn't. She continued to tell me that my sister would buy me another loaf of bread (she won't) and that because of the way I acted, my sister would feel unappreciated. I need to be grateful because my sister doesn't cook for the household often. My mind was boggled, I didn't know what to say. The way I "reacted" was staying quiet, so I didn't blow up. My sister doesn't do this to anyone else except me. She would rather ask forgiveness than permission . But I can only forgive so many times. I can't tell if I should be grateful she made food I didn't eat or if I'm being entitled and selfish. I have yet to talk to my sister about it. She can be very stubborn sometimes. So, reddit, am I the Asshole?