This might a bit long so sorry in advance. I’m 25M, I graduated college in 2021 and have always been a bit into games, but I got a PC in 2020 and have basically gotten addicted to games. I barely did anything in college, no internships, activity’s and didn’t gain anything valuable other than my life long friends. I got a biology degree but did nothing with it after graduating. I gamed and gamed and gamed, in 2023 I got job at eye care clinic for about 6 months until I quit and just gamed more while telling myself I was going to learn how to code and pivot into it.
Fast toward a couple more years, still no progress other than programming classes I took and didn’t even do that well in. Love life? Basically Non-existent. Im overweight and out of shape and I keep telling myself I’m going to change and lose weight and get in shape but I never stick to anything and nothing changes. You might be wondering why am I here trying to change then when it seems like nothing works.
Ive had a barista job since September 2025 which is nice but in February this year I made the worst mistake of my life while coming back from a party. I was mentally spiraling about my fathers health getting worse and about the girl I’ve had a thing with on and off since college not liking me anymore and I crashed my car into a tree (no one hurt, I’m thankful and sorry) and got a DWI. I felt like nothing could save me anymore and like my life was over but by the end of the month, it motivated me to actually study and try to get an IT certificate (comp tia A+). I was never really addicted to alcohol and rarely drank so I just gave up drinking completely after the DWI. I was motivated to study and was trying to get things together, but just a little while later, in April, my father died. I completely stopped studying and went back into gaming and not caring about anything. It’s May now and the weight of everything feels almost crushing.
I see all of the people I went to school with getting good jobs and doing great things while I’m here doing nothing working as a barista and gaming. My mom’s still alive and well and I can tell she’s upset about how I’m living my life. I can’t stand to disappoint the single parent I have left, I want to change, lose weight, get in shape, study, get a good job…. I just don’t know how. Am I just someone that’s too lazy to do anything? I know how important everything is but I can’t stick to anything. I’m sorry if this is written horribly. I just mentally feel like I’m caught in a web, and I’m hoping anyone who’s been in a similar spot can help me figure things out or atleast tell me what your life’s been like and if you’ve gotten it together. Ty for reading
Tl:dr wasted years of my life gaming, got a dwi, father passed away, need to change but can’t stick to anything, need help changing.