Should I tell my boyfriend why I freaked out about pregnancy early in our relationship?
Ok so here we go…
I’ve been dating my(27F) boyfriend(32M) for around 2 years, and today something from the very beginning of our relationship came up that has me wondering if I should tell him something or just let it go.
Before I met him, I had an occasional hookup situation with a guy (let’s call him Jack). It was only sex, no feelings involved. We briefly talked about possibly becoming something more, but he said he wasn’t emotionally ready for a relationship, so we agreed to keep it casual.
Then I met my current boyfriend (Ted) in April 2024, and honestly after our first date I pretty much lost interest in anyone else. Me and Jack weren’t officially “done” yet at that point, but I’m pretty sure we only hooked up one last time before me and Ted became serious. I don’t remember the exact timeline anymore, but I do not think I slept with Jack after Ted and I started actually dating.
Tonight I was talking to my roommates about sex, and they were surprised that my boyfriend and I still use condoms even though I’m on birth control.
I texted my boyfriend joking about their reaction, and he replied that the reason we still use condoms is because of “that one time you got paranoid.”
Early on in our relationship, I thought I might be pregnant and completely freaked out. I took multiple pregnancy tests and even took 2 Plan B pills. I wasn’t pregnant, thankfully.
At the time, part of my panic was because of the overlap/timing with Jack. My boyfriend has no idea about that situation, and he doesn’t know that one of my fears was not knowing who the father would be if I actually had been pregnant.
Now I’m wondering if this is something I should tell him, even though it happened so early on and before things were serious between us. Or should I just leave it in the past and move on?
For context: I’m on birth control, and I’ve never had a partner finish inside me before. I’ve mentioned being curious about it, but my boyfriend said he probably never wants to because he doesn’t want to go through that pregnancy paranoia again.