My (F30) best friend Sam (F30) is engaged with a toxic fiancé (M32) named Danny. They have been together for nine years now. At first Danny seemed like a nice guy. However, right before Covid started his true colors started to show. Name calling and then physical abuse followed shortly after. For now I know the physical abuse has stopped. (At least she said it has) Sam has been thinking of breaking up with him for a few months now. They aren’t compatible in a lot areas. (Surprise… surprise) She even talked about breaking it off last weekend. Then Wednesday night I got a call they broke up. Danny had moved out five boxes with his siblings. Well, unsurprisingly they got back together today. Sam was going through a mental breakdown. Called a hotline for help because of her bad thoughts. Her adopted mom and dad are dead. No family nearby. I’m 4-5 hours away and only have the weekends off. I’m wondering how to support her without scaring her off from talking to me about things? Like I could write a novel about this. I saw online it takes seven times for an abuse survivor to leave their abuser. I just don’t want her to get hurt or worse. Any suggestions are welcome!
TDLR;- I (F30) Need advice of how to support my best friend (F30) through an abusive relationship with her fiancé (M32).