u/Icy_Illustrator8181

For my 21st birthday a little over a month ago I went out with my boyfriend, my close friend, and her wife. We bar hopped all night & there were a couple bars we went to and my boyfriend paid for their drinks and bought my friend a Caesar wrap from the bowling spot we went to. She did send me $50 to give to him for the things he paid for at one spot but no more money after that. The next day my boyfriend was telling me he spent almost 1k that night on drinks, food, arcade games, and just general admission. We got super super lit that night so I hope it's clear I wasn't blaming anyone at all, as I said in the text messages!

They sent me screenshots of their transactions and were confident that there was nothing else he paid for besides the things she cashapped me for. I kept telling her she was fine, and we were all super drunk so if she was sure it's totally okay and even said I know her and her wife wouldn't intentionally not pay him back for things and I know they're not broke, I was super reassuring.

This happened April 4th and she has not talked to me since then and I also haven't tried to reach back out to her. Initially I thought maybe she thought I was mad at her so she was avoidant but after reading the texts I sent her there's no way she thought I was mad because I was so very reassuring and told her me nor my bf were mad I was just trying to get that cleared up if anything was left out. We ALL work together and tonight someone was telling my boyfriend that they heard her and I aren't friends anymore because we got mad at her and accused her of not paying back the things he bought for her and her wife. I went back and read the messages tonight and realized I made a typo when and said "he want under the impression we were mooching off of him either, I just wanted to get things straight". I meant to say WASN' V Could it be that she didn't read through the typo and thought I was telling her my boyfriend thought they were mooching? Is this where the confusion comes in? I was honestly just gonna look at this as it is what it is but I'm really upset she’s telling people that in our work place. Makes us look bad. I’m at the point where I just let shit ride. I don’t even know what I want to say but do plan on reaching out without it getting ugly. Big misunderstanding

I’m talking about women who make sure they keep a man because without they wouldn’t have a house, car, be able to eat etc etc. It’s so easy to hit that clock and take care of YOU. You need to make sure you can still take care of yourself without a man. The thought of having to rely on a man to eat or just even get my hair done is sooo gross to me.

Stay at home moms DO NOT count here, it’s different when you have a husband and family and have mutually agreed to stay at home and take care of the house! I’m talking about the girls who are in and out of relationships and in a pitiful ass situation when they’re single. Especially the ones who already have 2+ kids and constantly posting on fb they’re a struggling single mom and yadayadayada. If you would hit the clock and stop popping that poosay you’d be straight.