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My husband is struggling but is reluctant to approach services because he’s had very poor experiences with nhs mental health services in the past and I’m feeling extremely out of my depth and ill equipped to support him. He has had a horrific childhood, deeply traumatic and abandoned by both parents. The birth of our first baby 5 months ago has ripped that wound wide open and I can see him drowning in his pain. His eyes are sad or dead, he’s retreating into himself and I can’t reach him. He won’t speak to me or anyone else. How do I help him? What do I do? I’m trying to adjust to becoming a mum and deal with all that comes with that. There’s no joy at the moment and we won’t get this time back with our baby. What do I do?

I have offered that we pay for specialist therapy in the past, we could afford it then but I’m on maternity and we’re tight as can be.

Hello! Could you lovely people recommend a couple of recommendations

1. Nice coffee shops, speciality coffee with enough space I can sit in for a while if baby needs a feed.
   2.outside space for a picnic- I’ve not been to York for years but am I right in thinking that there is lovely green space along the river?
2. If the weather is rubbish, is there anywhere I can hide and entertain a baby, for example, in Newcastle the Baltic had a baby sensory room!

Thank you so much!

I’m a silversmith (by hobby) and want to make a piece of jewellery for my son, his name is Rowan (as named after the tree). The irish name for the tree is caorthann, with the literal spelled translation is ᚉᚐᚑᚏᚈᚆᚐᚅᚅ

Whereas I could also (correct me if I’m wrong please!) use the letter luis ᚂ for the Rowan tree.

The is a third option! Rowan as a name in Irish is Ruadhán and the Ogham would be ᚏᚒᚐᚇᚐᚅ

Please help me with which one is correct!!

Conversations about sex, so feel free to skip. I had my baby 5 months ago and I realised it’s getting close to a year since my husband and I had sex! Neither of us really wanted/enjoyed pregnant sex and so that tapered off, and since having him I’ve not felt sexy or like having sex even once. Our sex life used to be amazing and I felt deeply, intimately connected to my husband but now I want nothing like that. I miss him so much but I can’t pretend to be turned on if I’m not. I’ve put so much weight on and I don’t recognise the confident sexy person I was. When does it get better? Anyone find it never came back? Anyone been at it non stop since you gave birth? Any and all tales of postpartum sex life welcome to help me get some perspective!