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In early summer 2022, my boyfriend at the time broke up with me. At first, I don’t even think I fully understood how devastating it was going to be, but within a couple of days, I was completely shattered. I couldn’t stop crying. I felt like my entire world had cracked open.

A few days after the breakup, I went to a temple. I was raised somewhat religious, Hindu with a bit of Sikhism sprinkled in, but I never really knew what I believed. I always believed there was something greater than me, some kind of God or higher power, but my relationship to it was mostly fear-based. It felt like something I had to answer to, something watching me, judging me, punishing me. I definitely lived most of my life in a state of victimhood too, and I had for years.

That day at the temple, I was honestly just crying my eyes out and speaking from my heart. I basically said, if there is something out there, and I don’t even know if anyone is listening, but if there is something out there that truly cares about me, please show me the way forward.

That moment brought me peace. Not because everything was magically fixed, but because for the first time in a long time, I felt held by something.

About 36 to 48 hours later, I randomly found a spiritual coach on Instagram. To this day, I don’t fully know why I clicked on her page, but I did, and I booked a one-on-one session. I thought we were going to talk about manifestation in the usual Law of Attraction way.

For context, my mom had introduced me to The Secret when I was around 12. I knew about positive thinking, Abraham Hicks, all of that. But if I’m being honest, I never really used any of it in a real way. I had terrible self-concept for most of my life. I had a history of undervaluing myself, bad relationships, emotionally unhealthy dynamics, and just generally not believing I was worthy of something truly good. I had spent years in relationships that were wrong for me, and I think deep down I didn’t believe I was going to get better.

So when I got on that call, I thought we were going to talk about attracting love, being positive, maybe soulmate stuff. Instead, she introduced me to the Law of Assumption.

I had never heard of it before.

And during that call, she said something that planted a seed in my mind. She basically said, you sound like you’re really in love with your ex. Why don’t you just manifest your specific person?

I honestly didn’t even know that was possible. I thought it might be manipulative or wrong. I had all the same doubts a lot of people have in the beginning. But something about that conversation cracked something open in me, and from that point forward, I dove headfirst into Neville, the Law of Assumption, and manifesting my SP.

And when I say I went all in, I mean all in.

That entire summer, my life revolved around manifesting him. I was consuming content constantly. I read Neville. I listened to lectures. I watched YouTube videos like it was my full-time job. I read success stories on Reddit constantly because they made me believe it was possible. I downloaded SP workbooks. I did meditations in the morning where I reminded myself I was God, the operant power, the creator of my reality. I danced in the mornings because music helps me shift my state. I visualized engagement. I had inner conversations. I acted as if. I listened to affirmations while sleeping. I did self-concept work. I did every single thing I could find.

And to be fair, there was movement.

I started all of this in early June, and by the end of July, after a period of no contact, my SP reached out. He told me he was moving across the country, but he wanted to see me before he left. I obviously spiraled a little because now I was like, okay, how do I manifest on a time crunch, how do I stop him from leaving, how do I fix this. But we spent that week together, and it was honestly beautiful. It was so clear that we still loved each other. Neither of us was really saying it outright, and we weren’t back together, but it was there.

Then he still moved away.

At our last dinner together, I even told him, and I still laugh thinking about this, you don’t know this yet, but I’m your wife, and one day you will. He smiled like the polite gentleman he is, and then he moved away.

After that, we went no contact for three and a half months.

And those three and a half months were brutal. I doubled down even more. I found another coach. I did more self-concept work. I listened to affirmation tapes at night. I had inner conversations constantly. I visualized him being in my apartment, in my bed, in my life. I felt both his presence and the lack of his presence at the same time. I was trying so hard. And if I’m being really honest, I was driving myself insane.

My friends started telling me I was obsessed and needed to let it go. That I had become kind of reclusive. That I was making myself miserable. And they weren’t wrong. I just wasn’t willing to stop, because something in me knew this person mattered deeply.

The week before my birthday, I went back to the temple. I was crying again just like I had been at the beginning of the summer, and I said something like: you showed me the way once. I know there is something here. I know this is real. But something is not clicking. Please show me the way forward.

And this is when everything changed.

Shortly after that, I found the coach I still work with today. She taught me what the Law of Assumption actually is. Not content-level understanding. Not surface-level “do this technique and get this thing.” I mean a real understanding of what manifestation actually is.

She said one sentence that changed my life:

You manifest who you are, and you cannot stop that process.

That sentence changed everything for me.

Up until that point, I thought manifestation meant doing techniques to make something happen. Like applying some external force, or using enough tools, or doing enough visualizing, affirming, acting as if, or whatever else to create the future I wanted.

But the Law is actually much simpler than that.

The Law of Assumption is not about learning some brand new magic tool. It’s about understanding what you are already doing that manifests your life. You are manifesting constantly. You cannot stop that process. Your beliefs, your expectations, your state of being, what you believe is true for you, what feels normal and natural to you, what you assume about your future, that is what is shaping your reality all the time.

And when I really saw that, I couldn’t unsee it.

Because if you are manifesting anyway, then you are manifesting anyway. Even when you are spiraling. Even when you are doubting. Even when you think you’ve given up. You are still manifesting. Which means you can’t keep turning a blind eye to what you are actually assuming to be true for you.

That was the shift.

I stopped trying to make something happen and started understanding the process by which I had been creating my life this whole time. And once I understood that, I could finally use that same process in my favor.

So I dropped almost everything I had been doing.

No more obsessive inner conversations. No more trying to act as if in some forced, weird way. No more micromanaging the 3D. No more trying to manipulate reality into changing. No more making it all about him.

That part was huge.

Because the biggest shift for me was that I stopped making it about him and started making it about me.

I realized that manifestation always happens from your perspective. So instead of obsessing over whether he was coming back, what he was doing, what he was thinking, whether he missed me, whether it was working, I started focusing on my actual desire.

And my actual desire was not just “this specific person.”

My actual desire was to be in the happiest, safest, most loving relationship of my life. To be with my soulmate. To feel secure, adored, chosen, peaceful. To be a happy partner. To be a happy wife. He represented that for me, and deep down I still knew he was my person, but I stopped making the work about controlling him and started making it about becoming the version of me who was already living that reality.

My SATS changed completely too.

Instead of doing elaborate scenes or trying to force visualizations, I would just close my eyes and feel into the life I wanted. What does it feel like to live with the person you love? What does it feel like to be a happy wife? What does it feel like to feel deeply safe and secure in your relationship?

And importantly, this was not me pretending it was already here in the 3D. That’s another big thing that clicked for me. It wasn’t about pretending I was married right now. It wasn’t about delusion. It was about inner knowing. It was about knowing that this future was mine. Not one day maybe, not distant and abstract, but real, close, imminent. Like I could almost taste it.

The best analogy I have is ordering something online. Once you’ve checked out, you know it’s coming. You don’t keep asking if the order is real. You don’t sit there spiraling about whether it exists. You know it’s booked. You know it’s done. You know it’s on its way.

That’s how it started to feel for me.

I knew what I was manifesting. I knew the future that was mine. I didn’t need to check the 3D every five seconds asking, is it working, is it happening, where is it, why isn’t it here yet. Because when something feels like the natural outcome, you don’t interrogate it constantly. You just know.

So when thoughts about the future came up, I would return to that knowing. Oh yeah, that’s what’s going to happen for me. I know what’s booked for me. I know where this is going. And then I would live my life.

I think that’s also where people talk about “detachment,” but to me it wasn’t detachment in the sense of not caring. I cared deeply. It was more that it became so natural and so expected that I stopped obsessing. It was like, of course that’s what’s going to happen. Duh. And because of that, I could actually enjoy my life again.

That became my state.

I would journal. I would do Faster EFT to move emotions and clear what was in the way if I noticed fear, grief, lack, old memories, or resistance. I would do short SATS and keep returning to the feeling of the end until it felt natural and normal for me. And then I would go live my life. Fully. Presently. Happily. Not because I had “given up,” but because I knew what was coming.

Within five weeks of that shift, he was back.

Not only was he back, but he told me I was the love of his life, that he had made a mistake, and that he wanted to get married to me. Nine months later, we got engaged. And now we’re getting married in ten months.

But the biggest thing is that this wasn’t just a one-time manifestation.

This changed my life because it changed the way I live. It moved me out of victimhood. It taught me that life is happening through me, not to me. It taught me to stop entertaining futures I don’t want. It taught me that my state of being matters. It taught me to stop making my life about fear and start making it about what I actually desire.

And that’s why I’ve been able to keep this relationship too. Because this became a lifestyle, not a one-time technique.

In early summer 2022, my boyfriend at the time broke up with me. At first, I don’t even think I fully understood how devastating it was going to be, but within a couple of days, I was completely shattered. I couldn’t stop crying. I felt like my entire world had cracked open.

A few days after the breakup, I went to a temple. I was raised somewhat religious, Hindu with a bit of Sikhism sprinkled in, but I never really knew what I believed. I always believed there was something greater than me, some kind of God or higher power, but my relationship to it was mostly fear-based. It felt like something I had to answer to, something watching me, judging me, punishing me. I definitely lived most of my life in a state of victimhood too, and I had for years.

That day at the temple, I was honestly just crying my eyes out and speaking from my heart. I basically said, if there is something out there, and I don’t even know if anyone is listening, but if there is something out there that truly cares about me, please show me the way forward.

That moment brought me peace. Not because everything was magically fixed, but because for the first time in a long time, I felt held by something.

About 36 to 48 hours later, I randomly found a spiritual coach on Instagram. To this day, I don’t fully know why I clicked on her page, but I did, and I booked a one-on-one session. I thought we were going to talk about manifestation in the usual Law of Attraction way.

For context, my mom had introduced me to The Secret when I was around 12. I knew about positive thinking, Abraham Hicks, all of that. But if I’m being honest, I never really used any of it in a real way. I had terrible self-concept for most of my life. I had a history of undervaluing myself, bad relationships, emotionally unhealthy dynamics, and just generally not believing I was worthy of something truly good. I had spent years in relationships that were wrong for me, and I think deep down I didn’t believe I was going to get better.

So when I got on that call, I thought we were going to talk about attracting love, being positive, maybe soulmate stuff. Instead, she introduced me to the Law of Assumption.

I had never heard of it before.

And during that call, she said something that planted a seed in my mind. She basically said, you sound like you’re really in love with your ex. Why don’t you just manifest your specific person?

I honestly didn’t even know that was possible. I thought it might be manipulative or wrong. I had all the same doubts a lot of people have in the beginning. But something about that conversation cracked something open in me, and from that point forward, I dove headfirst into Neville, the Law of Assumption, and manifesting my SP.

And when I say I went all in, I mean all in.

That entire summer, my life revolved around manifesting him. I was consuming content constantly. I read Neville. I listened to lectures. I watched YouTube videos like it was my full-time job. I read success stories on Reddit constantly because they made me believe it was possible. I downloaded SP workbooks. I did meditations in the morning where I reminded myself I was God, the operant power, the creator of my reality. I danced in the mornings because music helps me shift my state. I visualized engagement. I had inner conversations. I acted as if. I listened to affirmations while sleeping. I did self-concept work. I did every single thing I could find.

And to be fair, there was movement.

I started all of this in early June, and by the end of July, after a period of no contact, my SP reached out. He told me he was moving across the country, but he wanted to see me before he left. I obviously spiraled a little because now I was like, okay, how do I manifest on a time crunch, how do I stop him from leaving, how do I fix this. But we spent that week together, and it was honestly beautiful. It was so clear that we still loved each other. Neither of us was really saying it outright, and we weren’t back together, but it was there.

Then he still moved away.

At our last dinner together, I even told him, and I still laugh thinking about this, you don’t know this yet, but I’m your wife, and one day you will. He smiled like the polite gentleman he is, and then he moved away.

After that, we went no contact for three and a half months.

And those three and a half months were brutal. I doubled down even more. I found another coach. I did more self-concept work. I listened to affirmation tapes at night. I had inner conversations constantly. I visualized him being in my apartment, in my bed, in my life. I felt both his presence and the lack of his presence at the same time. I was trying so hard. And if I’m being really honest, I was driving myself insane.

My friends started telling me I was obsessed and needed to let it go. That I had become kind of reclusive. That I was making myself miserable. And they weren’t wrong. I just wasn’t willing to stop, because something in me knew this person mattered deeply.

The week before my birthday, I went back to the temple. I was crying again just like I had been at the beginning of the summer, and I said something like: you showed me the way once. I know there is something here. I know this is real. But something is not clicking. Please show me the way forward.

And this is when everything changed.

Shortly after that, I found the coach I still work with today. She taught me what the Law of Assumption actually is. Not content-level understanding. Not surface-level “do this technique and get this thing.” I mean a real understanding of what manifestation actually is.

She said one sentence that changed my life:

You manifest who you are, and you cannot stop that process.

That sentence changed everything for me.

Up until that point, I thought manifestation meant doing techniques to make something happen. Like applying some external force, or using enough tools, or doing enough visualizing, affirming, acting as if, or whatever else to create the future I wanted.

But the Law is actually much simpler than that.

The Law of Assumption is not about learning some brand new magic tool. It’s about understanding what you are already doing that manifests your life. You are manifesting constantly. You cannot stop that process. Your beliefs, your expectations, your state of being, what you believe is true for you, what feels normal and natural to you, what you assume about your future, that is what is shaping your reality all the time.

And when I really saw that, I couldn’t unsee it.

Because if you are manifesting anyway, then you are manifesting anyway. Even when you are spiraling. Even when you are doubting. Even when you think you’ve given up. You are still manifesting. Which means you can’t keep turning a blind eye to what you are actually assuming to be true for you.

That was the shift.

I stopped trying to make something happen and started understanding the process by which I had been creating my life this whole time. And once I understood that, I could finally use that same process in my favor.

So I dropped almost everything I had been doing.

No more obsessive inner conversations. No more trying to act as if in some forced, weird way. No more micromanaging the 3D. No more trying to manipulate reality into changing. No more making it all about him.

That part was huge.

Because the biggest shift for me was that I stopped making it about him and started making it about me.

I realized that manifestation always happens from your perspective. So instead of obsessing over whether he was coming back, what he was doing, what he was thinking, whether he missed me, whether it was working, I started focusing on my actual desire.

And my actual desire was not just “this specific person.”

My actual desire was to be in the happiest, safest, most loving relationship of my life. To be with my soulmate. To feel secure, adored, chosen, peaceful. To be a happy partner. To be a happy wife. He represented that for me, and deep down I still knew he was my person, but I stopped making the work about controlling him and started making it about becoming the version of me who was already living that reality.

My SATS changed completely too.

Instead of doing elaborate scenes or trying to force visualizations, I would just close my eyes and feel into the life I wanted. What does it feel like to live with the person you love? What does it feel like to be a happy wife? What does it feel like to feel deeply safe and secure in your relationship?

And importantly, this was not me pretending it was already here in the 3D. That’s another big thing that clicked for me. It wasn’t about pretending I was married right now. It wasn’t about delusion. It was about inner knowing. It was about knowing that this future was mine. Not one day maybe, not distant and abstract, but real, close, imminent. Like I could almost taste it.

The best analogy I have is ordering something online. Once you’ve checked out, you know it’s coming. You don’t keep asking if the order is real. You don’t sit there spiraling about whether it exists. You know it’s booked. You know it’s done. You know it’s on its way.

That’s how it started to feel for me.

I knew what I was manifesting. I knew the future that was mine. I didn’t need to check the 3D every five seconds asking, is it working, is it happening, where is it, why isn’t it here yet. Because when something feels like the natural outcome, you don’t interrogate it constantly. You just know.

So when thoughts about the future came up, I would return to that knowing. Oh yeah, that’s what’s going to happen for me. I know what’s booked for me. I know where this is going. And then I would live my life.

I think that’s also where people talk about “detachment,” but to me it wasn’t detachment in the sense of not caring. I cared deeply. It was more that it became so natural and so expected that I stopped obsessing. It was like, of course that’s what’s going to happen. Duh. And because of that, I could actually enjoy my life again.

That became my state.

I would journal. I would do Faster EFT to move emotions and clear what was in the way if I noticed fear, grief, lack, old memories, or resistance. I would do short SATS and keep returning to the feeling of the end until it felt natural and normal for me. And then I would go live my life. Fully. Presently. Happily. Not because I had “given up,” but because I knew what was coming.

Within five weeks of that shift, he was back.

Not only was he back, but he told me I was the love of his life, that he had made a mistake, and that he wanted to get married to me. Nine months later, we got engaged. And now we’re getting married in ten months.

But the biggest thing is that this wasn’t just a one-time manifestation.

This changed my life because it changed the way I live. It moved me out of victimhood. It taught me that life is happening through me, not to me. It taught me to stop entertaining futures I don’t want. It taught me that my state of being matters. It taught me to stop making my life about fear and start making it about what I actually desire.

And that’s why I’ve been able to keep this relationship too. Because this became a lifestyle, not a one-time technique.

Everyone talks about techniques, but not enough people talk about what actually keeps your manifestation stable in your day to day life, and that’s mindfulness.

When we talk about manifesting, the work is actually very simple. You assume your desire. That means you decide that what you want is booked and done for you. You’ve already selected that version of the future, and you trust that it’s going to unfold, because the future only exists in your mind anyway. So in SATS or in imagination, you tap into the version of you who already has it. You feel into that reality, you feel what it feels like to be that version of yourself, and then in your day to day life, you move with a quiet knowing of “this is what’s happening for me.” Living in the end is not walking around pretending something is physically here when it’s not. It’s an inner certainty. It’s knowing how this ends and not switching out of that.

Where most people go wrong is not the imagining part, it’s what happens after. They feel it in imagination, they come out of it, and then they spend the rest of their day in lack. They start questioning, analyzing, checking the 3D, spiraling into all the reasons it won’t happen. The moment you do that, you’ve assumed a different end. You’ve decided that a different version of the future is more real for you, and that’s what you keep experiencing. So the real work is not constantly repeating techniques, it’s not going into lack. And the easiest, most natural way to not go into lack is to be present.

Mindfulness is simply being fully present in your life. When you’re in the shower, you’re actually in the shower, feeling the water, enjoying it. When you’re eating, you’re tasting your food instead of being in your head. When you’re working, you’re doing your work instead of mentally living in ten different scenarios. You’re just here. And when you’re fully present, it becomes very hard to spiral into “where is it, why isn’t it here yet, what are they thinking.” You’re not constantly leaving your life to go into your mind and create lack. You’re just living.

And this is where it becomes powerful in relationships specifically. As things start unfolding, as your SP comes back, as communication picks up, most people ruin it by overthinking every little thing. What did that text mean, why did they say that, are they pulling away. But if you’re mindful, you’re actually present with them. You’re enjoying the conversation, enjoying the time together, enjoying your own life. You’re not creating problems that don’t exist. You’re letting things unfold naturally while staying rooted in “this is working out for me.”

This is honestly what made the big difference for me. There was a point where I just became very present in my life. I was enjoying my days, enjoying my alone time, enjoying the unfolding of everything instead of constantly checking where I was. And that did two things. It kept me out of lack, and it allowed me to actually experience what I was manifesting in a way that felt real and fulfilling. I got to savor the last moments of being single, I got to enjoy the transition, and I wasn’t mentally rushing to the end or questioning it every second.

If you want something that actually stabilizes your manifestation, focus less on doing more techniques and more on how you’re living your life. Be present. Enjoy what’s in front of you. Let the end be decided, and then stop interfering with it by constantly checking and doubting. That’s the real shift.

Everyone talks about techniques, but not enough people talk about what actually keeps your manifestation stable in your day to day life, and that’s mindfulness.

When we talk about manifesting, the work is actually very simple. You assume your desire. That means you decide that what you want is booked and done for you. You’ve already selected that version of the future, and you trust that it’s going to unfold, because the future only exists in your mind anyway. So in imagination, you tap into the version of you who already has it. You feel into that reality, you feel what it feels like to be that version of yourself, and then in your day to day life, you move with a quiet knowing of “this is what’s happening for me.” Living in the end is not pretending something is physically here when it’s not. It’s an inner certainty. It’s knowing how this ends and not switching out of that.

Where most people go wrong is not the imagining part, it’s what happens after. They do the visualization, they feel it, and then they spend the rest of their day in lack. They start questioning, overthinking, checking for signs, and mentally going into all the reasons it might not work out. The moment you do that, you’ve assumed a different end. You’ve decided that a different version of the future is more real for you, and that’s what you keep reinforcing. So the real work is not constantly doing more, it’s not going into lack. And the easiest, most natural way to not go into lack is to be present.

Mindfulness is simply being fully present in your life. When you’re in the shower, you’re actually in the shower, feeling the water, enjoying it. When you’re eating, you’re tasting your food instead of being in your head. When you’re working, you’re doing your work instead of mentally living in ten different scenarios. You’re just here. And when you’re fully present, it becomes very hard to spiral into “where is it, when will it happen, what if it doesn’t.” You’re not constantly leaving your life to go into your mind and create lack. You’re just living.

Think about it in terms of something like manifesting a new job with better pay. You’ve applied, maybe you’ve had the interview, and then what most people do is spend the next few days obsessing. Did they like me, did I say the wrong thing, have they seen my application yet, what if I don’t get it. That’s you constantly shifting into lack. But if you’re mindful, you do the application, you show up fully present in the interview, which already makes you come across better, and then you go back to your life. You trust that it’s done, and you stop interfering with it. You’re not checking your email every five minutes or replaying the interview in your head. You’re just living your life, and that’s what keeps your assumption intact.

Same thing if you’re waiting to get into a school or a program. You’re present while you’re writing your applications, you’re actually thinking through your answers instead of being in fear about the outcome. Then once it’s submitted, you go back to being present in your life. You enjoy your current situation, your last few months of college, your current job, whatever it is. You’re not rushing ahead mentally or stressing about what hasn’t happened yet. And ironically, that’s what allows everything to unfold more smoothly, because you’re not constantly undoing your own assumption.

This is honestly one of the biggest shifts you can make. When you’re present, you stay out of lack. You stop overanalyzing, you stop trying to control every step, and you actually allow things to come together. And on top of that, you get to enjoy your life while it’s happening. You’re not waiting for something in the future to finally feel good. You’re already there, and everything else just meets you in that state.