Preying on vulnerability
While I've been on leave I've been reflecting on what it is about me that my NBoss saw and exploited.
Before this boss I had 2 in a row that were horribly ableist and discriminatory.
One allowed a powerful donor to mock my disability around me and told me that donors are more important than my feelings. That boss also kept asking me why I even worked in my field if I'm disabled, and fought my accommodations.
After I left that job, my next boss told me I exaggerated my skill level when I asked for accommodations for my disability. They refused to accommodate me. That workplace liked to brag about how accessible and inclusive they were too.
Understandably this left me in a very depressed, anxious, and vulnerable state when I interviewed for and accepted my current job. I think my NBoss saw that and knew he could exploit it. I was so desperate for a crumb of accommodation and respect for my skills I bet I radiated it.
I wonder if anyone else feels like NBosses can sense this stuff?