Can cheaters really show remorse and change?
36F here. I have been with my partner for 13-14 years, including a decade of marriage. Posting here with the hope to hear some real life experiences.
I found out a few weeks back that he was cheating on me for almost a year. Because I figured out, he came clean. Of course, all hell broke loose and he realised what he had actually done after he saw the state I was in. He claims that all he has been feeling since I found out is remorse and guilt. He is also working with his therapist to figure out the whys of this.
My dilemma here is if I should forgive him and give him a chance? To rebuild the trust will take years. Plus I feel deeply disrespected and betrayed by what he has done. To treat me like an option and choosing someone else over me every single day, is something that is unbearably painful. I donno if I will be able to 100 percent trust him again. Has anyone been able to do so?