I recently found that my 13 year old (she just turned 13 a few days ago) has been lying about her father and I to a friend that we forbade her to see or talk to. The reason she was told she wasn't allowed to talk to this friend is because she started cutting, started becoming obsessed with her, sending messages constantly and needing constant reassurance. It just wasn't healthy and definitely wasn't anything like her typical behavior.
I was doing my periodic phone/iPad check, and I found messages on her iPad, and she has been talking to this girl the entire time, behind our backs via google docs on her school email. Not only has she been lying about messaging her, but she also made up TERRIBLE lies about me and my husband. She told her that I am abusive, physically and sexually, that I neglect her, that I starve her, that I won't allow her to hug me, that I tell her I wish her other friends were my daughters instead. She then said her father is abusive towards me and her and that he beats our dog. NONE OF THESE ARE TRUE STATEMENTS. I immediately notified the guidance counselor and made her aware of these messages that are being sent on her school email and asked for advice. I have her scheduled with a therapist on May 11th. Because the emails were through her school email, in writing, the guidance counselor was told she had to notify CPS. The guidance counselor did tell me that she told CPS she absolutely did not believe any of these accusations and that my daughter was just doing this for attention. I am terrified of losing her and my younger daughter because of her lies. We did confront our daughter about this but it's almost as if she isn't taking it seriously and doesn't understand the seriousness of these disgusting lies. I'm just at a loss and so distraught. I don't understand why she would do this to us.