I’m lost.
I don’t know how to really feel about this person. Im 17M and I never really had any intimate relationship before with anyone and this girl I’ve known for a while likes me and I don’t know if it’s bad or if I’m overthinking and paranoid.
So a bit of background around 2024 I started to snap this person and began to develop a little crush on her but like every attempt I tried just went no where and got to the point where I just stop talking to her like that. She saw me one time irl recently and I said hi and didn’t really think anything of it because I kinda phased her out of my mind that we are just friends and she doesn’t think of me like that.
We still talked casually,but like 6 months after that interaction she started messaging me and sending reels and stuff, and I think a mutual friend was trying to set me up with her because they were close. I continued messaging her and like every time I’m just thinking why now, all those times I was trying to talk she would be dry and not do anything and now she’s telling me she has feelings it’s just so fishy and apparently she was talking to another person around that time and it didn’t go well so I’m thinking she’s trying to get with me now since that didn’t work out. But in the heat of it I thought this is good I can finally have a relationship after not being in one my entire life but every now and then I just get so tired of the conversation and how she acts.
Like those corny reels and her entire TikTok repost is male edits like I’m not stopping you from what you like but like I find it kinda obsessed to an extent. I feel this is some sort of love bombing. But sometimes she’ll send a screenshot of guys messaging her and be like “omg these guys are so creepy and I don’t know what to do” I’d simply tell her there’s a block button for a reason and she’s gonna say it’s mean or some other excuse. And another time where she’s sending me a text with another guy and saying “like I don’t know why he’s texting me I’m not feeling it” but then she’ll give him all of her accounts and what not. Like she’s friendly and all but if I want to take this serous I feel I’m gonna be a cuck. Like these are just two instances that she showed me who knows how much more is out there. I guess that’s the cost of having someone that attractive but why send it to me? Is she trying to bait me.
Honesty I think I lt might be a bit of me tbh, every time there’s a girl that likes me first I always fumble and then 3 month later I realize I was really dumb in that moment and should’ve taken it,this is why I’m stuck now I’m see all these flaws but i feel if I break off from her I’ll regret it in the future.like every week I’d have different feelings about her like now I’m just resenting her and like I was gonna tell her off but I just haven’t replied yet.
So what do you think I should do in this scenario or am I just paranoid and overthinking it. I’m kinda glad I got this off my mind because I’ve been keeping it from my friends.