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I f'ed up. This is a little lighthearted but i did f up and would like to know how to make it up to him.
My husband works very hard and travels about 75% of the time. He is home on weekends and about one week a month. I do get to travel with him some of these weeks that he's gone as he prefers this. But most of the time I am home
Where I am a stay at home wife.
Due to several a family obligations and life In general, he has not had any weekends to himself To relax in several months.
Last Thursday, he was gone out-of-state. I asked him, what he wanted to do this weekend. You said he wanted to relax and enjoy time with me.
On Friday I decided to paint the kitchen. Thinking it was about a 4 hour project. He was coming home this day via airplane and then a 2 hour drive. He called once he landed and asked me what I was doing. I told him that I was painting the kitchen. All he really said was this isn't a 4 hour project. This is about 16 hours.
Needless to say, he walked into a mess. The painting was taking forever and also needed 3 Coats with a primer. He not only didn't say a bad word to me, but he picked up a paintbrush and started painting. Once 2 Coats were done, he could tell I didn't like it. so the next day he went and bought a much more pale yellow and we were able to bust out a third layer. This one we both really enjoyed.
I keep replaying his face when he saw how much work still needed to be done when he walked in. I will never do that to him again. He works so hard to make sure I have a good life
On sunday I apologized and told him I would never do that again. And he told me to " not to promise something I couldn't keep." And " you are a handful but my handful" so i know he forgives me.
There's a big part of him that wants to do all this stuff with me. I just ordered 2 dressers, and I told them I would put them together myself, and he said absolutely not to wait for him. So I know this is all in good fun
Here's where I need your advice next weekend It's going to be all about him. I'm gonna cook him his favorite foods, jump his bones as much as possible and Let him watch his stupid youtube channels. What else can I do to make it up to a man who dedicates his life to making my life better? I try really hard to give him Peace & Love and I screwed that up last weekend. What else can I put on the list to make up for 12 hours of painting after being gone from home all week.
Edit: thank you for such wonderful replies. I wanted go address a couple of things.
Leaving him alone would be the worst thing to do. We enjoy each others company. He is gone so much he just wants to do life with his wife. That could be going to the post office, fishing or folding laundry or heaven forbid painting.
No i not a monster that planned to trap him with painting. my adult daughters were supposed to come in from the city to help. The car broke down that morning. I already started so i continued.
Do i plan projects when he is gone? Yes of course i do but again my HUSBAND loves to live life with me so when life happens he isn't butt hurt about it. The dressers will require 2 people to put together. I had a husband for 22 years that did nothing. I did everything. My now husband would never want me to have to build dressers for OUR house alone. Does that mean he wants to build them the moment he walks in the door no. But running around making sure he doesn't have to lift a finger each weekend isn't the answer either. He wants to do life with me not life in a utopia.
Yes youtube is stupid. Even my youtube that give me joy is stupid.