WIBTAH if I went low-contact or no-contact with my parents.
Hi
I am 17 and autistic (idk If I should mention this but I think it could be useful to mention)
For a while a series of things have happened which have made me lose trust with my parents. I am told a lot that I "don't understand" but something just doesn't feel right about it.
It all started when an upcoming wedding when my grandma had suggested a quite expensive suit store to get a suit for the wedding. Myself personally I thought it was expensive. My parents then were saying to me that we will go to this store to get a suit if I liked it or not. I did try to suggest cheaper alternatives because the suits aren't cheap here the full set I had to get cost me around £200 or $272.68 at current exchange rates. at the time that was about half my bank account. one time when I was suggesting a cheaper store. I was told my by my mum she would try and get legal guardianship control over my money if I don't stop arguing.
another instance was when I was joking with my mum my dad had brought out some food for my sisters turtles. My mom said she doesn't like the food as she finds it disgusting (If I recall they were small insects) I took one out the bag and teased with it just as a joke and my mum lashed out at me shouting at my dad "dear hit him hit him". I didn't mean any harm.
Another thing was a cloth that I had let my mon borrow. I commonly used it to clean my laptop screen. I found my mom outside with it 20 mins later using it to clean her car rims. Which isn't what she told me she would use it for. I asked her what she then had to make sure to make fool of me in the street as a "joke" I went to the shop soon after I was told "ill give you the cloth back when you get back" I came back asking where it was and my parents were very hesitant to tell me and tried to downplay it as just "being a cloth" which I get it is just a cloth. It was the way I was treated. My parents then said that they would get me another cloth when they had the time but any promise like that they make they never come through with. I soon later found the cloth in the bin hidden.
my mum has also made some random statements about autism like the day I was meant to get my diagnosis result we got to the entrance and she said "ins't it like 3 in 4 people have autism" it sounded like she had no idea what she was even saying. I followed up by asking here what her source was the reply I got is "because I said so".
Another time we were meant to be going to a local air show in a local town and my mum cancelled it last minute because "it would be to loud for me" even though I am not the type to over my ears at loud noises. I tried explaining this to mum but she didn't really care or even cares at all to consider other perspectives.
I could be misunderstanding all of this from what I'm told but it seems like to me just some manipulative tactic to get me to calm down.
My parents seem to deny anything like it never happened or it did and I'm in the wrong.
Any response is welcome.
AITAH?