Okay so, I met this guy early this year. He and I met online, if it makes a difference to my approach. Keep in mind I can fly out to him whenever I want, moneys not an issue.
I confessed my feelings to him around two months ago, and again more recently a week ago. We both know each-others values very well, and he and I were open about wanting to fully understanding our feelings before entering any kind of relationship. Initially I had confessed in hopes he would reject me so I could move on, as I was pretty sure he did not like me that way, but it turns out he had feelings he also wanted to explore. In my mind this put us into a situationship, made us exclusive and im sure he had the same understanding.
A few weeks after my first confession, my female friend (F18) Had confessed to me whilst drunk. She and I joke around a lot (calling eachother bf&gf) So i assumed she was just drunkenly saying things. I told the guy im interested in about it as i wanted to be clear and open. In no way am I interested in her and she knows it too.
On top of that, I frequently refer to my friends as beautiful, goddesses, and overall glaze them so much because I truly love those around me- this is important context, keep it in mind.
A few weeks ago, the guy im talking to started seeming overly friendly with someone else, to the point i honestly started to think they were together. It was subtle signs like them talking plenty, catching them using petnames on eachother- my situationship even commissioning an artist to draw them together. I grew upset, so this morning I asked a mutual friend and, yeah, you guessed it- theyre basically dating.
Well, my situationship said that it's nothing official, but the guy is so overbearing? So clingy? He texts like a yandere game character to my situationship? Hes also incredibly attractive, In a way I am not, I dont think I could compete.
When confronted, he told me that he assumed I was into my female friend, and had lost feelings for him. He was very gentle, and understanding. I love that guy hes so sweet. I feel so hurt, but at the same time, its my own fault for not clarifying I wasnt into her at all. My situationship now doesn't know what to do, as he unintentionally led me on, due to a misunderstanding between us, and now has a new man hes talking to- and to be honest, I feel like regardless of how this ends, I will be a second choice, or compare myself to that other man if we did date.
For clarification, I had confessed a week ago for a second time, and the stuff with the other guy had been bothering me even prior to that. I dont know, Im overall at a loss.
TLDR: My situationship accidentally got himself a new interest after mistakingly believing I was dating my female friend after she drunkenly confessed to me.
I just want to know; Is this worth salvaging? Where Can I go from here? What do I say to / ask of him?
Hes an incredibly sweet and understanding man, and this truly was all a misunderstanding and accident. For a short clarification, we are in the "getting to know eachother because we both have small crushes on eachother" phase. I do not know how deep his relationship with the other guy is, all I know is it started after ours, and seems very intense on the other guys end.