Long story short my husband cheated on me 6 years ago. The girl he slept with was a coworker. She ended up pregnant said it was his even though she was sleeping with the store. We had already been together 6 years and had a 4 year old daughter. Fast forward to now he never had anything to do with that girl and didn’t know if it was his or not. I had got DIRECT confirmation from her that the child wasn’t his. It was bothering me we got into an argument I reached out to her ready to end my whole relationship if it was his kid. This is something that has eaten at me for years. Now we have three kids together I’m pregnant just found out two days ago. Now he suddenly wants to know if the child is his. After all this time. I told him it’s not but now I’m being controlling. I don’t know what to do. He tells me I do nothing for him I’m finishing school I go to my externship everyday. I get kids to and from school I cook and do my best to clean house my plate is full. But “I swear I do the most” he works overnight at a wholesales store stocking 8hr shift. He’s home with our youngest 5 hours in the morning which she naps half that and he does too. I’m tired of being hurt I never did anything to deserve any of this. It still hurts the fact he cheated I think about it everyday and that makes me pull away sometimes especially when I get a reminder of what happened. What should I even do 12 years together from high school none of this feels fair.
Tl;dr: He thinks I’m the bad person for how I feel towards the situation as if I wasn’t the main one affected by selfish decisions