So I (36m) became close to a friend (28f) over Christmas till about a month ago, (apr 26) we would hang out all the time she invited me to everything. Fast forward to about a month ago he brother came to town they got into a heated fight I got her brother away and said things I believed he already knew to calm him down to show he wasn’t the only one having problems. He miss understood what I said and used it against her. This resulting in me being blocked. I apologized for over stepping and assuming, (she unblocked me a few days later) which I believed she accepted and said I understand.
Now it’s been 3 weeks since that happened and I felt something was off so I told her we needed to talk to clear the air. She’s been being short and making me feel shunned from the group with zero invites etc. I also heard she thought I was jealous because I got pissed when she disappeared with a random dude on a bachelor’s trip when we were already ready to leave. I guess I also treat her too well but I do that to everyone I am close with. I’ve never tried to make a move on her and we don’t even hug. So I am at a loss where she thinks I like her more than a friend.
So I had a sit down with her and explained how I felt about everything that’s been going on including her being short, how I feel like I’m forcing her to hang out and I brought up the jealousy thing. Which she said she didn’t think I was jealous. ( I heard it from a friend’s wife which I believe more than my friend. ) at the end of it before I leave she goes “don’t be weird” which I thought ok I wasn’t planning on it.
Now two weeks after that I texted her asking “what are yall doing tonight” since it was a Friday and I like to drink to coup with mental health stuff from the military. I get a pic of her and her roommate at a bar we normally went to. I just responded with “I went to lunch there with my two coworkers. (One of them is the husband of the wife that told me). She proceeded to say invite them. Which I thought that was a “come hang out and invite them” maybe I’m stupid or what not so I did then asked how long they were going to be and I got hit with “few”. I just feel like I’m forcing her to be friends with me now.
Side note a while back she sent her friend a picture of her and I to do a AI baby picture together. Which I thought was odd. The whole time she’s still talking with her ex who’s (44 m) her mom says we should date, so does almost everyone we know, and every bartender thinks we are together. Do I have an emotional connecting for sure but that’s due to feeling normal and not having mental health issues when we hang out, but that doesn’t mean I want to date her.
Am I over reacting to want to just leave the situation because I feel like I’ve done nothing but a good friend to someone, by treating her how I treat all my friends and how I feel like I want to be treated?