u/Icy-Assistance-5034

My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 8 months now and have known each other for a year and 3 months now, during our talking stage he met my parents, I had just left an abusive relationship the year prior and my now boyfriend seemed okay with at the time, since he suggested it in the first place. I will be honest that we had a few issues when we first started, for example while we were talking I did express that I felt like he was okay with a situationship and he said he wasn’t, but we kept being that for months. At that time I was texting other men, but overtime slowly stopped texting all of them, which he has seen my messages, that was before he asked me to be his girlfriend, and went through my phone. Another is that 6 days before asking me to be his girlfriend, he went to his girl bsf (they’re not friends anymore as far as I’m concerned and have on/off checked) birthday party and was carrying her around all night, tried to kiss her, and was drinking with her. Mind you he lied to me about where he was going, told me that there was no females near him, etc. I didn’t find out until new years, the first time I went through his phone and found all the videos in his hidden. Then a few weeks later she texted him what happened, and he was about to go out to eat with her, the day I was supposed to go to Disneyland, but cancelled on her when he found out I wasn’t going anymore and fully deleted her number and blocked her. The problem is I feel like after we’ve been through all that, and have gone on great adventures together, I have asked if he’s open to me meeting his family, months ago he said he’d be open to me meeting his grandma soon. I brought it up a week or two ago and he was like FINE, let’s go right now, I said I’m not even ready (I was in comfy clothes) and realized I upset him. Thing is my boyfriend comes to visit me 2x a week at my parents house so he’s familiar with my family and any friends I do have, he has met. Though when he gets invited to a party for his friend’s sister baby shower, he didn’t think of even inviting me, and I guess that kind of hurt because I know I’d invite him. Basically I have never met ANYONE in his life, and even though he wants to go ex communication with his family, he’s always talking to me about them, and his friends. (Side note he did state I am the chunkiest and tallest girl he’s ever dated, and that just made me feel like he’s embarrassed of me even when he says he’s not). So how can I move past this? Or how can we communicate this better?