u/Ice_Butcher

I won't be sharing my age in this as I'm uncomfortable with it. To be honest all this happened a couple years ago but I still feel like I might be the asshole. He's not as bad anymore but he's still annoying (kids in general tend to annoy me so not his fault.) When all this happened he was around 4-5. He has a very strict father who I personally HATE. He's so egotistical and thinks everyone should bend to his will. I hope he stubs his toe (sorry random tangent.) My little cousin (who I'll call Eli) would often get spanked for little things that didn't matter. Once he got yelled at for sitting in a different spot then where his father told him to because he wanted to look out the window. It was a 2 inch difference not even joking. But when Eli would do genuinely bad things he'd just get a timeout or something and it clearly wouldn't work because he'd do it again.

Once he hit me with a hammer because I was trying to get the dog out of the house. I passed out the next day for a couple hours and had a hammer mark on my chest. I don't remember what happened but he absolutely wasn't sorry about it because he'd "joke" about doing it again. He also did a lot of things that would send me complaining to my mom because I'd be in genuine pain. It wasn't like I could get away from him either (and still can't) because we lived like right next to each other.

Now I have another cousin who I'll call Suzie. Suzie has a leg condition that makes her legs swell up and hurt a lot. Eli knew this and would purposely kick her legs whenever given the opportunity. Suzie is also pretty old (around 56 I believe we have a very diverse family lol.) At church he would often look under girl's skirts. Whenever me or Suzie or anyone else told Eli's mother about this behavior she would either say we were lying or that "boys would be boys." He also forcefully kissed a girl once when she didn't want him to and everyone acted like it was a joke which as a victim of COSCA was very disturbing and upsetting.

He also would flip me off a lot and everyone would say "he doesn't know what it means" but he absolutely did. I could tell by the way he'd smile evily at me when he wouldn't get in trouble. One time I was lying on the floor and he jump sat on me. It hurt really bad (obviously) and when I told my aunt (his mom) she laughed like it was funny or something. Things like this have happened so often that I laugh whenever I get hurt because that just seems like the appropriate response. I'm trying to stop doing this and tell people I'm genuinely in pain but it's kind of difficult.

He also called me fat when I was going through a period where I would barely eat to the point I'd almost pass out. I once heard his mother talking to another aunt about how "tired she was from people complaining about her child." Woman if there's enough people complaining about him for it to be that noticeable I think you're the problem. Anyways AITAH?