It’s been a year since my (28M) ex-wife (28F) left, saying she was unhappy and, in her words, wanted to be independent and selfish without being accountable to anyone. Crazy thing is she left as I finished law school and my legal career was kicking off. I wasn’t perfect and took accountability for my flaws and being needy at times, though I truly tried my best to make her happy and save the marriage to no avail.
In the year since she left, my ex-wife has not looked back. Hasn’t reached out once. She seems completely unbothered and I have no idea how she is doing (removed her and her friends and family from social media). Her sister is getting married next month, and her family reached out to a family member of mine to photograph her sister’s wedding (this family member also photographed my wedding) without regard for my feelings. My ex-wife has ADHD and in her own words is avoidant. I feel that the stonewalling, frequent fights, and hurtful accusations thrown my way in the lead up to the divorce were textbook devaluation/character assassination.
I’m doing better, going to the gym and therapy, expanding my social circle, dating multiple women, and my career is great. But I still feel the void of my ex-wife. To those who have been through something similar, did your ex-wife ever return? Did they ever apologize for treating you terribly when you know deep down you didn’t deserve it? What made her act this way and make me the villain when I never cheated or abused her?