My(24M) ex gf(21F) and I were deeply in love like I’ve never been before, or so I thought.
We broke up exactly a month ago.
I think she has been cheating on me the entire time!
We met last year and from the very beginning I knew I’d love to try to build a relationship with her after being single for a couple of years.
She was so precious, so kind and innocent or that’s maybe something I kept telling myself.
She was living with her family and it was suffocating for her because she told me they’re controlling and I supported her, got her a job and housing but she eventually went to live with her aunt and got another job and housing.
I work 60 hours a week and still basically managed to experience living together since we used to spend 2 nights together for 3 months after seriously dating for a similar amount of time.
She told me I was her first sexual partner, and the first love of her life. And honestly? I like to think she was really that much in love with me.
We showered together and I’ve never done that with anyone before, I brought her food to bed, carried her around the house and bought her flowers on every single major or minor occasion - not to mention other gifts from designer brands.
We used to kiss each other’s hands in public and even some casual PDA from time to time almost always initiated by her and I’ve never been into that, but I liked it because I was deeply in love with her.
I also almost always paid for everything every time we go out.
I’m a fairly handsome man and I’ve been told that my entire life, by men and women, I live alone, highly educated, smart and been told by many women I’m a very emotionally intelligent man.
Early in the relationship I found her following random men on instagram and then saw someone texting her and asked who he was and she lied saying he’s a friend she told me about before.
I called her bullshit and she started crying but eventually agreed to give me her phone and I checked the whole thing.
Some chats/messages were deleted but I never found anything THAT concerning and she made it obvious she had a bf but still entertained him and even gave him her number.
I told her I don’t wanna see her again and we stopped talking for a week but she tried to apologize and fix things and accepted all of my terms and eventually I let it slide because we were just a month into the relationship give or take.
But since that moment I had a really bad feeling about her because she started getting so deep in love with me and a bit quicker than the previous pace.
Fast forward, I got into a really devastating situation because of some family issues and it costed me a lot of money, not to mention I’m also an immigrant -legal one- and I was facing some issues with my documents.
I told her about the situation and that for a while I won’t be able to spend on everything for both of us and she was deeply disappointed.
On a random Tuesday we were at my house, right after we had sex like 3 times within 24 hours and yes she finished as well, anyway… we were cuddling and I brought up my situation and what she thinks of it because we agreed to give it some time to think it through.
Suddenly, she started crying and I saw it coming and I found myself asking: “You don’t want to see me anymore, do you?”, to which she nodded yes.
We didn’t talk much, we kept crying for an hour then she said she has to leave because her brother needs something urgent.
And just like that, she left and never to be seen again!
Never tried to reach out again but almost always responded to my texts when I did and for a week maybe all of her social media activity was heartbreaking then suddenly after maybe 10 days things noticeably changed…
She started wearing heavy makeup, got a piercing, spent a lot of money on buying stuff and going out more, as you guessed: textbook rebound mentality.
After less than 2 weeks I reached out and talked and she said she misses me deeply and she’s madly in love with me and apologized for what happened but never offered a solution or directly asked to go back together.
Best she can do is a sorry and saying she doesn’t know what to do even though she’s the one who started all of it.
A couple of days after this convo -exactly 2 weeks after the breakup- somebody new popped up on her socials, or I thought he was.
I already had a bad feeling about him and I felt he looked familiar and I figured maybe he was on her socials before at the very beginning of our relationship, but most likely not the case.
A couple of days after that I saw his pfp change to a picture that looks like her signature shot in a place with love locks and that sort of thing.
I reached out to her again trying to get closure and we decided to meet for an hour or two and after 2 days of that agreement I saw her posting a video soft launching a new man!
Mind you we were in a relationship for months and she didn’t post anything about me until we were already deeply committed.
I shrugged it off and said maybe he’s a relative or something but then I decided to check her socials and I saw reposts about being deeply in love and another one about how she has been talking for a long time with someone and suddenly people finding out they’re in love!
I checked the suspicious guy’s profile and I found him posting a story of them together holding each other close in front of a mirror in her room -probably- and I’m saying probably because I’ve never been to her room even once the entire time!
It was always my house.
I texted her and confronted her about being unfaithful and being at the very least having an emotional affair behind my back and most likely physically cheating since we once had a dip in our sexual relationship and she was a bit distant and she told me she wasn’t satisfied even though we had sex 3 times a day easily and she finished at least half the times.
She never denied anything, never clarified, never had the decency to remove me and hide that from me. She’s out there now either using that guy as a rebound and he’s unaware of it or most likely he has been around as a plan B for months.
I don’t think I’ll ever be the same anymore, I don’t think I can trust anyone anymore.
We literally both introduced each other to our families and talked about eventually getting married!
I did everything right, emotional support, financial support, sex, I’m educated, smart, a solid 8-9 out of 10 and she was below me in every aspect.
I feel deeply used and betrayed and I don’t know what to do.
Even if that guy is new, she literally told me she’s in love with me about 2 weeks before they made themselves official!
TL-DR; my gf of almost one year has been using me for months and possibly cheated on me, maybe even than once.