u/Icanmakeyouhappy

I’m 31f AuDHD and wanting to seek a boyfriend long term. But for the life of me I am unable to. I am on dating apps and because of nerves I over extend initially. This may look like sending a lot of messages, questions, being myself (but on steroids it feels). I think my ADHD side comes out and likes the thrill. I share too much, too fast. Then I get obsessive with messages, responding all hours. My eating stops, I focus less at work, I am glued to my screen. Then I burn out and need a break from the men I talk to. Maybe I am also an avoidant because I don’t trust men that much. Now I give this overly confident person, ..and then later regret it?

I feel like I’m going to end up alone without finding my person.

I have been chatting to this older guy 37m for a few days, I did disclose AuDHD and for the 2/3rd time he has mentioned “ohh don’t use that excuse of AuDHD”. I feel a bit surprised (not sure why 🫩). But I am starting to not feel safe in my gut to be myself. Also the demand to cook for him, is giving me the ick as I already hate cooking for myself alone.

Can anyone share some advice? Or anecdotes, or how you found your partner?

Hi all,
I’m reaching out because I need some advice as a legal illiterate. I don’t even know where I’m supposed to go and believe my family will pull the wool over my mums eyes.

My grandparents bought a place in London in 1970’s etc. it’s now worth close to £1.5-2.0 million possibly more. The last living grandparent, my grandma passed away in April 2015.

My mum has 3 siblings (2 brothers and 1 sister). One of these brothers (my uncle) remained living with my grandma, and his wife and 2 kids.

My unc did not apply for probate - the house would’ve been in my grandmas name - until 2025. 10 years later. And having checked on the GOV uk website it states date of probate was 06/01/2025. It is now May 2026, and we’ve not heard anything. What do I do?

All other siblings have assets, their own homes etc. they’re not entirely rushing my uncle. In fact the other brother did request his share in 2020 for house reno which caused a riff in my family. I do believe he got it.
My mum is the only person who does not have assets and rents. She is strapped for cash every month, and quite frankly the entire family laughs. I am tired of my mother being treated like dirt. She is the only one that needs it. This same uncle has another property near by as a sub to let. But remains living in the gigantic house (of which his family does not need all that space).

I believe my uncle will not share the true details and will not provide my mum her share. What do I do? Please can someone advise. Or where to go/speak to. I was thinking or purchasing the probate info, but not sure what it will provide.