u/Ibinguad

First of sorry, i normally don't post anything but i literally don't know what to do now.

My girlfriend of 4 years (2 of which living together) broke up with me about 1 and a half week ago. Reason: she wants to move to the city and make career aswell but i want to stay on the countryside. Future plans don't align, agreed on leaving on good terms.

The first 2 days were difficult for both of us. Second night i came home finding her crying on the couch, telling me she regrets everything. As we weren't on bad terms i comforted and encouraged her (am i stupid?).

After the weekend (she was at her friends) we finally talked about how things would continue as she was still staying at my place. I didn't sleep a lot as all of her stuff was everywhere and it felt weird. She promised me to get all her stuff out by sunday and stay at her parents for now. Packing some stuff and driving of.

Fast forward a week nothing of her stuff really moves out. She texted me on sunday that she cant come pack today as she's sick. I respected that, although something felt of, as she posted some hiking fotos in her story.

Today she came packing, not really with an intention to get it all out of the flat (allready past the deadline). We had some smalltalk. After some back and forth she told me that she's in contact with a new guy (29) and has stayed over the weekend at his place. Remember she told me she was sick! I was still relaxed at that point continuing the convo and she told me lots.

I then went to get something from the store only for to realize what just happened and my chain snapped. I texted her dad to immeditaly get her stuff and be done by midnight, no more compromises (he knew about the new guy allready), to which he complied. She then texted me kinda trying to fix the situation and tone it down.

I went home again, confronted her and also reinforced that everything has to be gone my midnight. She told me that she didnt have sex with him?! Told her that i dont fucking care, she promised me to be done by sunday and then lied to me. Does that make the situation any better now? And she was the one wanting to stay in touch, leaving on "good terms". After 3 hours they were done and i got my keys back. Didnt talk to her anymore and blocked her everywhere.

Her dad tried to talk it out a little. Telling me im such a good guy and i will find my way, and if i need anything i can contact him. Like wth doesn't he realize what just actually happened?

Now after all the anger and adrenaline is gone i feel completely humiliated. She was my first girlfriend and i feel like ive never been in so much pain before. It feels like the last 4 years have been a waste. A lie.