u/Iamwhoiam678

My ex and I dated for 3 years, lived together and went through a lot of things. We both were pretty young when we dated it's been about 4 years. Our families are still close which makes it really hard. I feel like I constantly have a reminder. I don't want to ask my family to part ways because his family truly became like family to all of us and I think it would be a big ask to cut it. I distanced myself though because it was really taking a toll on me. Anyways our relationship was not perfect. But since I have dated around now (since him I have had two other partners) which I realize is not a lot and does not give me much variety but I've realized I never felt for someone like I did him. I think about him often and constantly have dreams. It truly hurts and idk how to get over this feeling. I wouldn't reach out because idk him anymore. It's been so long he probably changed I know I have. And I think it's one sided feelings. I just don't know how I can get over this or shake it.

When I go out I get approached by men. The pattern seems to be by the end of the night they seem fit to ask me I want to go home with them. I met a guy that seemed really nice and interested, asked for my number, we were talking all night. By the end he asked if I wanted to go home with him. I did not and made that clear. Never heard from him again. This has happened before to me. Makes me wonder do they only see me as hook up material because I am unattractive? Wouldn't a man that's actually interested want to get together the next day for a date or to show real interest? Thanks