u/Iamallouttaspoons

My partner has always been dismissive of my incredibly complex medical history, he always says "are you dying?" Or "Did you die?' Whenever HE asks what's wrong with me (it's really confusing, because why ask just to be dismissive? Why not just stfu and not ask?). ANYWAY. We have a toddler daughter who was crying in pain the other day and wanted her Daddy, so I called him over as he walked past and said "she wants you, she's in pain" and the only thing he sarcastically said was "awww are you dying?" "No? Are you gonna live? Yeah? No more crying" and basically just, that was it. No hugs, kisses, comfort, etc. I took her to the Dr today and she has Hand, foot and mouth. I'm just so devastated for her that he's so uncaring with her generally all the time, but this event in particular really hurt my heart (as well as triggered me) so much that at the time I just kind of stopped still without saying anything for like 5 minutes after he'd walked off, and I can't stop thinking about it, and this was days ago. She's such an incredible kid, she doesn't even comprehend what he said she just knows Daddy didn't cuddle her when she was feeling horrible and I just... I could never?