Long story with much more detail, but basically, I discovered he had been using ChatGPT to feed his delusion of an emotional affair with a mutual friend. It was on my desktop computer, I read one whole folder out of 5... He talked to the AI like a person and ran every conversation with her through it, asking it to help him sound "intelligent" and "attractive." He had used the AI to make a one year plan for leaving me, staying only because I was the breadwinner. He started altering his lifestyle. Started going to the bar multiple times a week, when he'd never gone before. Started wearing a girdle. He talked to AI about changing his physical appearance so she would find him attractive. He constantly said, "I'm not cheating on my wife," and "don't make me feel bad." He told the AI that he stopped wearing his wedding ring when he was away from me. That he'd followed her home. That when I was out of town, he acted like he lived the "single life." We did not have a mutually agreed upon open relationship. The whole while, the AI validated him and his feelings, encouraged him, and furthered the delusion.
When I discovered all of this, it was the push I needed to get out of there. I packed a few bags and took my pets, leaving his. Then over the next week, I would stop by and grab a few more personal things. He then decided I needed to make appointments with him to get my things. I permitted it, trying to keep from triggering him.
He had agreed to a dissolution. We have no kids and no property. So it should be simple. Yesterday, he added an "Exhibit C" explaining how I cannot humiliate or embarrass him, or interfere in any of his relationships or friendships. I haven't. He asked for a list of my friends and family whom I had talked to. I declined. And then he asked what I'd said or shown to the girl. I hadn't shown her anything, for her own mental health, but I did warn her that every conversation they had was passed through AI first, and to be careful. She wants nothing to do with him and had cut him off long before I was aware of anything. But of course, he thinks it's my fault.
Has anyone dealt with AI psychosis like this? How do you snap someone out of it?
Can he add additional terms like this? I understand him not wanting me to post the screenshots, but it seems so vague that I can't "embarrass" or "humiliate" him.