u/I_Love_Tennis1306

I’m getting really concerned about just how bad this obsession has gotten. Everything she does is about him. She has at least 30 notebooks stashed all around her room that are just about him, talking about what he did with her every day and about how much she loves him and would protect him at all costs. She did used to discreetly follow him around the school to his lessons so she could make a note of his timetable, and every time she would get her hands on a new picture of him it would be printed out and put into a special box with the others. She even sticks these images to the walls in her room and pretends he is watching her, and runs around with an image of him on her phone screen.
She sleeps with a pillow that she cuddles and pretends is him, and she seems to be obsessed with the idea of him farting on her or his bed.

At the minute they are both in a bit of a crisis, and he is ignoring her because they had an argument. In my opinion he’s a bit of a dick towards her and I don’t understand why she has gone for him out of all the boys in her school.

It has even gone as far as her writing down in her notebooks that she would let him do whatever he wants to her, no matter how uncomfortable or scared it makes her feel which is a HUGE red flag to me. It concerns me how far she’s willing to go for this boy, she’s given him money and was always buying him chocolate bars from the shop after school.

Thankfully she is leaving school soon so she probably won’t see him again, however I’m concerned because everything she does is about him, and her life literally revolves around him. She doesn’t engage in anything else. He doesn’t know about any of this.

What do I do about this?

My sister is turning 16 this month and seems to have no idea of what time of day it is. She acts like a small child in primary school.

Her bedroom is very childish, rainbowdash on the walls and loads of toys on her bed, she also likes Bluey as well and she dresses up as a cat and says she’s a therian.

She doesn’t seem to have any thought about how she is doing her final exams right now and leaving school in a few months. From the 5th of June she’ll be able to stay at home for study leave, and I’m honestly really concerned about how that is going to go, because everything turns into a battle with her. She won’t do anything she’s asked to do, and still expects everyone to run around after her and clean up after her. She lets her room get so messy that our parents end up having to spend over 4 hours cleaning it up.

Her “friend” group at school are also extremely childish. They create a mountain of a mole hill for absolutely trivial reasons, and right now some of the members of the group have cut her off because of an argument they got into a month ago. They also race each other to the library and breaks and lunchtimes and fight over who gets to draw on the whiteboard. Some of her friends are already 16.

My sister throws tantrums whenever she doesn’t like hearing something or doesn’t get her own way, she hits things, hits herself, shouts and throws things. She also jumps up and down on the spot and makes ridiculous excuses to try and justify things. She also still wants to buy childish things online, and I’ve found pacifiers in her room and sippy cups.

I’m so tired of her not growing up. I see other girls of her age all dressing grown up, with their friends, going out and doing things together, and every friend she makes she ends up falling out with. There’s always a new flavour of the month. Practically all of her peers have grown up and left her behind. She is still stuck in this childish mindset. She very rarely gets invited out and she hasn’t been invited to a friend’s house in years, I’m talking since primary school and everywhere she goes she just alienates herself away from everyone.

All weekend she sits alone in her room, and occasionally goes on a call with her 11 year old friend from down at the caravan we go to. Not one person from her school who she has on her contacts has tried to message her. She just sits there playing Minecraft, watching YouTube and rocking on her bed.

It is very sad to see and I just wish she would start growing up and developing like other girls of her age. I want to see her getting on with it normally like everyone else.