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Regret for fancier/traditional wedding dress for a simple wedding?
▲ 6 r/weddingplanning

Regret for fancier/traditional wedding dress for a simple wedding?

I went dress shopping with my best friends and my mom. I ended up going with one from an outlet store with a no return policy. It was super fun, though dresses are really not my thing.

The dress is beautiful and finances aren't a concern luckily (my mom bought it for me as a gift). But, I am really worried it is too formal for our micro ​wedding that's taking place at a local brewery. I had originally envisioned I wouldn't be wearing a wedding dress but maybe a linen dress or most likely ​a two piece pants and top situation.

In dress shopping I got really caught up in the dresses even though it wasn't my original vision. I feel beautiful, but ​not quite like me now that I'm not in th​e store. My original plan was just to go shopping out of my mom's wishes (which she was okay with, she just wanted the experience), but I got swept up in it and did end up getting a dress.

My fiance is concerned that it sets a much different vibe than my original, simpler idea. I think now he feels pressure to try and make the rest of the wedding fancier to match the dress, which I personally don't think is necessary.

He's usually very supportive, so I will say I'm quite a bit thrown off too that he's not just really accepting and into it, even though he thinks I look beautiful in it. But, I also maybe set up the wrong expectation too, as I don't think we really thought I'd actually a dress so he's just getting caught up.

I don't know. I love the dress, but now that I'm outside of the dress shopping environment I'm really worried it isn't me and is a really different wedding ​vibe than what I originally wanted. It feels more like I'm cosplaying a bride than it being for me. But, maybe I just don't see myself as that feminine and I'm just sort of getting stuck in that even though I did really enjoy feeling all bridal in the store.

The dress is similar to this, but more of an ivory without the nude tone: https://www.azazie.ca/products/azazie-sorella-diamond-white-nude-a-line-v-neck-sequins-tulle-chapel-train-wedding-dress/165857

How do I accept my dress being so traditional when originally I didn't even envision a dress?

u/IRLbeets — 5 days ago
▲ 1 r/FitnessTrackers

Fitness tracker without subscription that has recovery metrics and lifestyle impacts?

Not sure if this exists!

I'm relatively into fitness, but pretty casually. If it can track my runs with some basic stats and lifting then I'm happy.

I don't need any smartwatch features, I don't use them, ex. tap to pay, texts, calls, etc. I just use the watch and sometimes use the screen as a flashlight​. Watch is probably preferred​, as it's unsafe to wear a ring with barbells.

My key interest is recovery metrics and the ability to see impact of different lifestyle factors on recovery and stress. Ex. Sleep, HRV, HR, and then maybe the ability to adjust my own daily tags like migraine, alcohol, etc. Menstruation tracking would also be great. I think oura and whoop possibly have this, but only as a part of ongoing subscriptions which I'm not interested in.

I also have some chronic health issues, so while my main focus is fitness, it would also be very cool to be able to use the device to monitor impact of lifestyle on that, though I do have a dedicated app for that purpose.

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u/IRLbeets — 7 days ago
▲ 104 r/capsulewardrobe

Tips for spotting fake posts?

I'm not sure if this is allowed, just delete if not!

I've noticed a huge rise in posts made by bots or similar. I've also noticed a bit of a theme and pattern to the posts in fashion related subreddits so I thought it might be useful to ​share how we spot ​them!

They often start with some sort of​ leading ​statement, they don't just jump right into it.

  • not trying to be mean about this...
  • I can't be the only one who...[statement that doesn't actually connect to their main topic]
  • I must be ​the only one who...

They then describe a very normal situation

  • someone having difficult using capsule rules
  • someone not being able to keep track of their clothes
  • or a fashion observation

But they almost always add some sort of controversial layer even though it's a perfectly normal sentiment. I find this is a common tone throughout.

  • the "not trying to be mean" from above
  • description of how they modified it to make capsules ​work but in a way that feels like you're being sold a product
  • they'll present the idea as if it's totally new and just came to them, but it's either a super common topic on this subreddit (ex. wardrobe apps) or something that seems made up (fashion rules, something that works for them)

Also they are sort of disjointed in a way that's hard to explain. It just feels a bit alien to me, but I'm sure there's a more concrete way to describe it​

  • it may be a weird disjointed thing to post about (like there was just a post about wedding guest dresses, but just gave 3 key words for what to look out for rather than actually detailing any ​analysis around it). The topic is normal, but the way of speaking about it seems like someone who's never done life before
  • often formal sort of factual tone, but casually written

Fully understand if this is too meta, but I figured it could be a helpful conversation for people who are less aware of "bots" and just to spread awareness that many posts these days are unfortunately not real. Or at least are heavily created using "bots".

Plus these aren't random posts, t​hey're often massively upvoted. I'd love to hear how others spot "bots" in this subreddit!

That being said, the mods do an amazing job, usually by the time I go to report them they're already down!

ETA: Formatting​

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u/IRLbeets — 7 days ago