I guess it isn't entirely out of no where.
My wife an I have been together for over 6 years now. Those 6 years I felt were amazing, even when we were in hard times or had to make difficult decisions, we still at least had eachother.
Were in probably the worst rut of our lives, but were "on the out" of our current situation
- We got a house that was way to expensive a couple of years ago.
- she lost her job last year and had to take a big paycut with the next one.
- Her Depression came back in full force and I guess I didn't realize mine did too.
I pushed for months for her to get on medication, to get a better therapist, or at least ask her therapist for help. I even gave an ultimatum, that if there wasn't any improvement in a year, I would have to leave. If she couldn't get better, or at least try to get better within that time, then she never would.
And that worked. She got on medication, she started going to a new therapist, her body image and confidence massively improved, and she stopped saying she wanted to die every day.
We had a pretty amazing past month.
But then we got into an argument a week ago, and she kept alluding to us not being compatible. I called her on it, and she outright stated that she doesn't think we are. That argument has sort of spanned the past week with us talking every night, until 2 days ago. She wasn't just alluding to us not being compatible, she was talking about us not being together anymore, us getting divorced.
She told me that she loves me, but hasn't been in love, or even attracted to me in over a year. That I don't deserve someone like that.
I asked her what would happen if we broke up. Would we just start seeing other people? She instantly had the answer that we just wouldn't bring them over unless the other person wss comfortable with that.
But when I asked her if she thought we had a chance, or if she wanted to repair what we had, she said she didn't know.
I asked her if we could go to marriage counseling and she hesitantly said she would. So I then asked her if she would just be going out of an obligation, or if she actually wanted to try herself. She said she didnt know.
So I just don't really care any more. I dont really see the point in fighting for us if she doesn't want to as well. I know myself, and I know that I'm not going to call her begging to get back together to try and work things out.
She wants to be friends, but I think its going to hurt me too much to be around her.
I'm moving out tomorrow. I told her that I'm not going to be the one to change their mind. If she wants to try and work things out, I'm open to it. It needs to be a mutual decision. I know her well enough that I don't think its gonna happen.
I dont want to give us up, but she did, so i guess I did too.