We are both gay, ex-boyfriend was older by a few years. I am Democratic and he is Republican. We have tried making it work politically and have succeeded until now, unfortunately.
A few days ago we were having a discussion during breakfast about the assassination attempt on the president. He was upset especially since he voted for Trump. I voiced that at some point somebody might end up killing him, and the world will definitely change and in my opinion for the better. I expressed some views that he did not agree such as… bad people like Epstein and anyone affiliated with him deserve karma and death. He did not say much other than question if they deserve death. We went on with the day and I eventually went home to go to work. He texted me the next day something about his favorite singer and we had a quick funny discussion about it.
The next morning, he declared he was breaking up with me over text cause of what I had said during breakfast a few days ago. I was very taken aback, especially since I did exclaim that what I was saying was a grey area topic and I know it’s obviously wrong to kill a leader, let alone anyone. He basically said he was frightened of me and the stuff I believed in was alt-left. I told him immediately I was not alt-left, but rather clarified that I understand with the state of this world WHY somebody might become alt-left because of politics and the way they cheat regular people out of everything. I said he was breaking my heart about this.
He eventually apologized for breaking up over text, and kept saying there was something in his personal life that happened that made him make this decision. It took almost 24 hours to figure out what this situation was, which was about his cousin who lives on the other side of the US was dating somebody who was using pipe bombs in an attempt to kill Trump supporters. I, of course, do not condone that behavior and told him that I knew it was wrong and that I wish he told me sooner instead of just breaking up with me. I felt it was weird especially since it didn’t necessarily happen to him but he was acting as if it did… I did not bring that up but I could tell he felt sorry and was considering not breaking up but needing time, or at least I thought.
I explained that maybe time is what’s best, as we have had other close calls of breaking up with other situations. I explained that we are way too different in political stances, and that we don’t have much in common, but that his views about me were wrong. He then sent his “I hope the best and goodbye” text, so I sent mine. He then texted me saying if I wanted to grab my stuff at his place, which I declined only because it was too fresh and I would be upset and I didn’t want either of us to be in that situation.
He then proceeded to send “Just trying to be nice, I know how tight money is for you right now.” I truly don’t know why he said that since I am literally doing decent and maybe better than ever financially (thank God, I understand some are not as fortunate and I have been there). He then sent “You are a troubling person to navigate and I have no desire to talk to you but want the best for you”
At that point until then everything had been civil, but I felt like he just started being mean to be mean, so I gave him a bit of my two cents. I declared I am a good person and that I deserve somebody who understands me and loves me for all my different sides of myself. I had to declare once again that I was NOT alt left after stating it like four times. I told him that I couldn’t help but feel like this was emotional whiplash and that if he had always seen me as this troubled person like he said, then why was he ever with me? I am planning on dropping a gift he gave me at his front door tomorrow. I just do not care anymore. I do not want it and he can give it to somebody else or throw it away.
But, am I truly wrong? I don’t believe I am, I know I am a good person and he even has said so before but he changed on me very suddenly for this one opinion I had that I even apologized for, and it just makes me believe how utterly… senseless he was about it?