u/I-guess-backburner

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Questioning and friends don’t help

Okay so long story short I have recently realized I am pretty aroace aligned (for the 99.9% of interactions so I roll with it) and I really prefer male pronouns and to be referred as a man. Whatever.

I have been grappling with my own brain and for the most part everyone is very accepting and understanding. Long story I have a friend who’s very religious and he was normal about it until recently. We had a conversation recently where we were discussing our pov about aroaceness and transness and he said he doesn’t believe we go to hell but basically he invalidated aroaceness and said I was “confused” because I just “hated some parts of my body” (out of which are… the boobs basically and my voice and a bit my height) and he proceeded to misgender (I don’t have much against she/her and they/them) me and did so in public and he somehow “understood” I gave him permission and idk

Even now he’s misgendering me (they/them compliance) and I feel a bit salty

I’ve been there for him when he was dealing with drama and we’ve gone through a bit together so it’s :/

Now I’m still a bit unsure of my transness and aroaceness and feeling invalidated

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