u/Hypocrite_broccol

Hi everyone. To give basic context I’ve just come back from a 2 week Asia vacation that I took pto for. The day I come back I receive news my grandfather passed away. They’re making plans for the funeral but the dilemma is that the funeral is in an Asian country halfway across the world.

I want to go, the biggest thing that’s holding me back however is that I just came back from the biggest amount of time I’ve been out of office from my first job right out of college (I’m under 25) and asking for another week off not even a week back would be the 2nd longest time I’ve requested off. I know in 20 years me saying that I skipped the funeral for work would not be a valid excuse and I know in 20 years I will think “work wasn’t even that important to miss it” but I’m afraid that by asking this time off I will be negatively affected at work. I’m not even 2 years into my first job and with the job market and everything going on I am legitimately scared I will regret my choice no matter which one I make. I was already lucky to get a job this good, but I know that paying thousands for a last minute ticket, taking that 15 hour flight there and back like I did 2 weeks ago, and taking a week off work again is hefty price.

What would you do in this situation? A medium we’re thinking is that my sibling go and represent us since they’re still in school. But I don’t know, I would technically be missing the funeral because of work and I know it might not sit right with me in the future. However going might also effectively affect my career since an extended break is exactly how a friend of mine got laid off.

I know in a movie the person would risk all of that just to pay respects at the funeral but I’m hearing that it wouldn’t be a formal service and we would be visiting the burial site not a open casket procession thing.

Still I am torn and I feel like there is a chance I will regret either choice I make. What would people do in this situation?