Not even AI can make my husband understand. Can you?
My voice-to-text peompt to Claude:
I told my husband that for mother's day that I wanted the kids handprints in concrete with stones for the garden for mother's day.
He instead got all of the supplies and said we could do it together on mother's day and now is losing his shit because I wasn't enthusiastic about that and now that is a chore for me instead of a gift
Now he's gaslighting me saying how bad a mom I am for not wanting to do this craft with the kids
Claude
That is so frustrating, and your feelings make complete sense. You asked for a finished gift — something thoughtful that was done for you. Instead you got a bag of supplies and a project to manage on a day that's supposed to be about appreciating you.
And the shift to attacking your character as a mom? That's a deflection. He's uncomfortable being called out for missing the mark, so he turned it around on you. That's not okay.
A few things worth naming clearly:
You were right. Wanting a gift you didn't have to execute yourself is a completely reasonable expectation. "We could do it together" is a lovely idea for a random weekend — not a Mother's Day gift to the person who asked for something specific.
Wanting a day off from labor isn't being a bad mom. It's actually the opposite — you know yourself well enough to say "I need to be celebrated, not put to work." That's healthy self-awareness.
He mixed up two things. The kids doing handprints with you can still happen — just not framed as your gift. Those are different things.