How to ask about exclusivity
Assalamualaikum everyone! I could really use some perspective on a potential I've been talking to.
I’m [22F], and I met a potential [26M] on Muzz exactly one month ago. Early on, we both agreed that we want to keep things strictly halal.
We don't talk every single day approx once every two or three days. However, when we do chat, we easily talk for 4 to 5 hours nonstop.
In those long sessions, we tackle the heavy stuff. We’ve thoroughly discussed non-negotiables, career expectations, family dynamics, and conflict resolution.
He has initiated the conversations and lately, our banter has been really great. He is also incredibly supportive and even helps me out with my grad school homework.
Because we are already deep into discussing future frameworks and serious logistical topics, I really want to know if we are exclusive. Since the first week i only talked to him. I didt it for my own peace. Between my Master's coursework and thesis prep, I don't have the mental bandwidth to invest in these heavy, 5-hour vetting sessions if either of us is still exploring other options. He had deactivated his muzz account but we never explicitly discuss about this.
Since our foundation is so logical and goal-oriented right now, I don't want to come across as overly emotional or clingy by bringing this up.
So my question is:
- Given that we don't talk every day but have very intense 4-5 hour chats when we do, is one month the right time to ask about exclusivity?
- How do I bring up exclusivity in a way that matches his pragmatic, goal oriented energy?
Jazakallah khair for your insights!