AITA for not wanting to constantly spend time with my girlfriend’s family?
I 22m am arguing with my girlfriend 21f over the same thing every time, her family. We go at least 4 times a week to her mums house, we’re there for usually around 4-8 hours and it makes me mad when I see them treating her like shit. Her mum has a list of things that need doing in the house waiting for her as soon as she gets there (her mum has copd and this is always her excuse for why her mum should just get to sit around all day smoking). Her nephew is 16 and no fucking help at all he just sits on his PlayStation all day and bitches and kicks of like a toddler if he’s asked to do anything. Her sister has also moved out and is no help she has a thing of organizing things then ringing my girlfriend expecting her to do them, for example making a vet appointment for the dogs then ringing my gf 45mins before the appointment telling her to take the dog. Her brother is autistic and likes to start arguments with everyone and also like her nephew not expected to do anything. I’m sick of having the options of go with her and sit with her family while she runs round doing everything (I’m not allowed to help her because “it’s not your responsibility” in my gfs words) or not go with her not see my girlfriend all day and when I do she’s too tired and just wants to go to bed.
We’ve had over 10 arguments about this and it always has the same loop of her saying if she doesn’t do it no one will, and me saying that they’re not going to do it while she’s doing everything for them. Idk what to do.