I've been NC for 4 months and now they're 'stalking' me and I'm worried for my son.
I went NC with my nmom 4 months ago after 45 years of physical,mental, emotional and even covert sexual abuse. Although it has meant losing contacts with other family members including my baby niece who I adore, it's been the best thing I've ever done.
Now, she and my enabling stepdad, a violent alcoholic who used to physically abuse me up until I left home at 18, keep turning up in my street and village. I live in a little village a few miles out from the main city where they live. They have literally no need to be here, but suddenly they're drinking in the village pub trying to befriend my neighbours, and catching the bus at a stop a few houses down from mine....that stop is seriously out of their way, there is one much more convenient for their route in the village centre. This is a deliberate choice so I know they're there. My nmom knows that I'm scared of and triggered by my stepdad...even though he's in his 60's he's still a dangerous man who most ppl in my area are very intimidated by. So she knows the impact hanging around my street will have on me. And the impact it will have on my 9 year old autistic son, who picks up on my being fearful no matter how much I try to hide it from him.
Why can't she just leave me alone? One reason is know she has always been horrendously jealous of me being able to buy this house and live in a nice area since my husband inherited some money. So there's that. But I've also found out she's going around telling the family me and the hubs are 'making up' my son's autism, calling our parenting into question. I'm really worried she's going to try and get to my son somehow. She tried to take my eldest boy (now 25) years ago so there's a precedent here.
I'm sick and shaking inside my own home now. Which is what she wants but I can't help my reactions. But it's not like she's doing anything I can report; I'd sound deranged. Which of course she always paints me as.