How to communicate with partners after surviving abuse?
My last relationship was abusive sexually and verbally. My (NB) current girlfriend is amazing, I love her to pieces. I feel like she doesn’t take Intrest in my interest as much as I do for hers . I struggle with advocating for myself when it feels critical to others due to my ex’s extreme anger issues and verbal abuse. I tried to subtly drop hints that I want her to pay more attention to my interests but I was definitely too vague and I feel I need to have a direct conversation. I asked her if she could start the first episode of one of five favorite animes (we really like anime(NORMAL anime) I gave her a summary of each of them and a list of streaming services they’re on. she said shed get to it eventually. so that’s a good step in the right direction. I feel like I spend at least an hour a day contributing to learning about her interests and she maybe contributes an hour every month. Can anyone please give me advice on a way to start a healthy conversation about this issue without sounding critical or aggressive?