AITJ for turning down being a godparent because I'm not religious and I actually told them why
my cousin and his wife just had their first kid a few months ago and last week they asked me to be the godfather. I was genuinely touched by that, like I know what it means to them and I don't take it lightly.
but here's the thing. I'm not religious at all. Haven't been for years. Their whole family is pretty devout, go to church every Sunday type, and being a godparent in their world isn't just a title, it comes with real expectations around raising the kid in the faith if something ever happened to the parents.
I said no and I explained honestly that I didn't feel right taking on that role knowing I couldn't genuinely fulfill what it actually means to them. I even said I'd still be super present in the kids life, already got some money set aside to start a little fund for them actually.
My cousin said he appreciated me being honest but his wife is really upset. Her mom called my mom. Now half the family thinks I was too blunt and should have just said yes and figured it out later.
I dont see how saying yes and then being a bad fit for what they actually need would have been better. but maybe I read the room wrong idk. AITJ