Am I being unreasonable about money?
Hi! My husband and I got married before he deployed and In the meantime im still living in Europe since im from here. I wanted to ask you guys’ opinion on a financial matter cos idk if im being unreasonable or not.
My husband is pocketing all BAH and he’s been getting a very generous pay since he’s on deployment. We have also been saving up to buy a house in Europe end of this year. I work and get much less than he does and have quite a bit of expenses. Before he deployed I had asked if he would be able to send me some of the BAH money so I could save a bit more from my salary. The reason for this is that i have to take the home loan on my name so the more I save and am wise with my salary, the bank might give us a higher loan.
He agreed but we never set an amount. So he gets to deployment and has been sending 300$ a paycheck and it feels like I have to remind him to send them. I also want to say that I appreciate every cent he gives because at the end of the day, its still his salary and he isn’t obligated to send money to me. However i cant help but feel that its a bit ‘unfair’ (if that’s the right word) that hes sending so little.
Sometimes I mention that I want something (bag, shoes etc) and he tells me he wants to buy them for me and tells me to buy the thing from the money he sent. He expects that from this money i buy myself stuff, get my nails done, buy food, pay for therapy etc but obviously i cant buy that much with 300$.
At the end of the day, i know he is saving up for our future and I’d feel guilty asking for more, but am I being unreasonable in thinking that 300$ a check isnt that much especially when he is making so much money?