My boyfriend has a sister. she has been staying with us for like a mionth already because her apartment was flooded and her landrord is still fixing some things. we live in a 3 rooms apartment, so hosting additional 1 adult and 1 kid wasn't a problem.
apparently she is a single mom and has 8 year old son. he is a really sweet kid, i love him, but i noticed that he apologizes for everything. like sorry can i get watter or sorry can i sit here. at first i thought he was just shy, but after a few weeks i started notticing why it was for real.
his mom is not an awful one, but she snaps at him constantly. if he spills juice, she acts like he did it to ruin her day. if he asks a normal kid question, she tells him to stop being annoying, if he gets upset she says nobody wants to hear whinning.
yesterday i was making pancakes. he came to kitchen asked if he could help. i said sure and let try to flip one, unfortunately he flopped it, immediately froze and started whispering sorry while trying to grab paper towels.
his mom walked in and said, this is why i don’t let you help, you make everything worse.
i said it was just a pancake. she told me not to comment on her parenting when i do not have kids and don’t know how to rise them.
after that i got mad and said that because of how she talk to him, he acts like one mistake away from being thrown out.
she became very angry and they both left kitchen. now she barely speaks with me and as i think forbidden her son to talk with me, as he now always passed through me not saying anything and looks really upset.
my boyfriend says i was right, but saying it in front of her soon was too much bc he now feels responsible for adult problems. i also asked him to talk with his sister on how she treats and rises her son.
i feel bad for this kid and wanna help him.
AITA?