u/HektikShrek

My gf and I are soon to finish highschool and we have been together for a year and a half. She is my first relationship, while she had one toxic ex prior to me.

Anyways, she is very emotionally intelligent, and that part of our relationship I would miss dearly if we broke up. But the problem is that she doesn’t satisfy me intellectually. I however, am gifted in that aspect and get very high grades without studying for my classes, especially English.

She is uninterested in politics, history or anything else that engages me mentally.

I also work out daily and while I am nothing exemplary, I’m in good enough shape that I feel kind of betrayed that she told me before we started dating that she would work out with me, but she doesn’t, no matter how much I try to get her too.

Her family are a bunch of red-necks and they are miserable people to be around. She is very close with my family, particularly my sisters and my mother. So I would feel guilty ending things with her because we have discussed our future to such extent that we have almost our whole life figured out.

She succeeds in her social life all the time and has plenty of friends and people to be there for her, I am in the same situation.

I am also against smoking and drinking and she smoked weed heavily when we got together and would always ignore me to smoke and get high. I think the weed use since she was 12 is a big part of her intellectual struggles. I really should have broken up with her back then, but I was blinded in being in my first relationship. She did stop smoking entirely for me in the end, but only after much strain on our relationship.

I really just don’t know what to do because I feel like our conversations are never very interesting and I am constantly bored.

Nowadays, she never does anything wrong to me and she is there for me, and having someone to give me a hug when I need it is great.

I guess the main thing I’ve been noticing recently is that all the things I like about our relationship, are things that you could find with ANY partner, and a lot of the things that are unique about her just aren’t it for me.

So I ask you people of Reddit, what do you guys think I should do here; what can you recommend I do?